Adult performer John Legendary drops some straight truths about the long-misunderstood ‘hotwife’ lifestyle and his freewheeling adventures as an in-demand ‘bull’ in other people’s bedrooms.

“’You can’t be serious! He’s okay with you having sex with his wife?!’ is an example of a common mindset from my vanilla (non-lifestyle) peers when I share with them that one of my kinks is having sex with wives, and the husbands are aware of it and are often present,” explains Legendary of his freewheeling activities with other men’s women.

“The husband is typically the liaison and facilitator in terms of coordinating a ‘play date’ – when you plan to meet with another party, swing couple, hotwife couple, unicorn, bull, etc. with the intent of sharing an intimate evening together. I find myself intrigued and turned on by the opportunity of meeting couples where the wife is being shared with me. I take this with great respect, because I understand the level of strength and vulnerability that is required, especially from the husband.”

John Legendary notes that porn has fictionalized the role of the husband who shares his wife as an inferior specimen, which subsequently turns a lot of men off from exploring their sexuality and the hotwife dynamic in fear of being labeled as a ‘cuck’.

“This social construct, likely fueled by the dramatization of porn, fails to demystify the true essence of what the hotwife lifestyle really is. I look at the hotwife lifestyle as an adjacent or sometimes overlapping branch of the swing lifestyle, which is typically referred to as ‘couple swapping,’, whereas the hotwife lifestyle is referred to as ‘wife sharing’”.

Legendary says that two different types of couples lie within the hotwife lifestyle: “you have cuckolding and stag/vixen. Cuckolding is often mistakenly synonymous with hotwifing, but it is simply about the sexual power and decision-making residing with the wife, compared to that of the stag/vixen couple, where the sexual power dynamic and decision-making is shared equally with the husband and wife.

“Often, the general population assumes that sexual activities seen in pornographic films by cuck roles, including chastity, humiliation, degradation, clean-up, orgasm denial, etc. are solely designated for cucks. In reality, the acts themselves are not what defines whether a man is a cuck, but rather who maintains the sexual power dynamic.

“It’s all a spectrum, and stags and cucks can enjoy as much or as little of the various [cuck] sexual acts without them having to define their role within the hotwife dynamic,” adds Legendary. “Frankly, this labeling or need to fit in a box only permeates the stigma of hypermasculinity.”

Now working for the industry’s top studios, Legendary has not only made his mark as an onscreen talent, he’s also the creative force behind his popular Date Nights and Three the Hard Way XXX series, as well as his newly-launched production brand LegendaryX.com. He’s since been nominated for several awards that highlight his considerable talents, and in 2023 won a Best Foursome/Orgy Scene award and XBIZ Best Sex Scene-Vignette award for his high-profile performance in Blacked Raw’s High Gear.

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