How to Be a Sexy Tradwife Even if You’re Not Trad or a Wife

Kinky Roleplay, Real Life, or an Online Persona, Here’s How to Do It.

If adult entertainment is about anything, it’s about fantasy, whether mild or wild. Given the nature of kinks, fetishes, and personal preferences, getting naked isn’t always required. Such is the case with the modern tradwife, a lifestyle trend that began in 2018, hit its stride in 2020, and continues to have traction among ultra-conservative Christians and those who yearn for a yesterday that never existed. Some popular “tradfluencers” are former OnlyFans models who “found God.” With them off the platform, that leaves space for those who enjoy the aesthetic but not the lifestyle’s priorities.

Popular Tradfluencers

To perfect the look and mannerisms of the tradwife, a visit to the social media accounts of self-proclaimed tradwives is a good idea, especially those with a history of OnlyFans work. Shannen Michaela, Hannah Neeleman/Ballerina Farm, and Gwen the Milkmaid all qualify. Each has their specialty and occupies their own niche, so there are a range of approaches to draw inspiration from.

Estee Williams, a 20-something blonde cutie considered by many to be the face of social media tradfluencers has never been an OnlyFans model, but she is considered to be an important voice for the movement. She explains that a tradwife “is a woman who chooses to live a more traditional life, with ultratraditional roles.” Williams is a true believer and preaches an online gospel of “biblical submission,” attracting “masculine men,” and that a woman’s “top priority should be wife and motherhood.” She began creating tradwife content in 2022, left her college meteorology studies for an opulent wedding in 2023, and now has more than 198K TikTok followers, as well as Instagram and YouTube accounts.

Her videos feature her wearing 1950s-style pinup girl dresses explaining how to cook whatever her husband wants to eat, how to buy cleaning supplies, how to prepare for her husband’s arrival from work, how to dress feminine for the gym (when her husband agrees she can leave the house), how horrible it is that most women must work, why feminism and college are bad, and who to vote for in the upcoming presidential election. Sometimes the busty influencer wears a low neckline that allows her ample cleavage to be admired.

Shannen Michaela is a 22-year-old Australian anti-vax, anti-feminist brunette who promotes birth tourism, raw milk, Bitcoin, marriage, motherhood, and the wellness retreats that she hosts at her family’s Costa Rican home. Whether on TikTok, Instagram, or YouTube, Michaela’s approach to tradwifery is sexy, if presented in a hippy-wholesome nature girl way. She tones it down for X but on others, her background in acrobatics and archery demonstrates an astonishing flexibility while wearing skintight or minimal clothing. She is not a 1950s-era tradwife. Instead, her approach to the lifestyle has a wholesome prepper vibe that even includes breast milk ice cream. Just think of the possibilities.

Hannah Neeleman is possibly the best-known of the tradwives, especially if you follow the beauty contest circuit. In August 2023, the now mother of eight was crowned Mrs. America while five months pregnant but not showing. She followed that up with an unsuccessful run for the Mrs. World crown the following January, when she was 12 days post-delivery. Deemed the “Queen of the Trad Wives” by The Sunday Times, her approach to the aesthetic is like Michaela’s but far more cottagecore and homestead-focused.

She and her husband live on a 328-acre Utah farm called Ballerina Farm in homage to the Julliard-trained career she abandoned to make bread and babies. She uses that name on TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, and X to promote the lifestyle to her 10 million or so followers. When she isn’t wearing a tiara, she wears one of the many styles of apron that she sells on the family website along with sourdough kits, flour, and candles. In other words, she’s not technically dependent on her husband’s income. Naughty, naughty, tradwife! Her equally Mormon husband’s name is Daniel Neeleman. He is the heir to the JetBlue airline fortune.

@ballerinafarmA night I will never forget. ✨This year has flown by. Heading to Las Vegas next week to crown my successor! I was 20 weeks pregnant with miss Flora Jo during this pageant. ♥️♬ original sound - Ballerina Farm

Gwen Swinarton is a pretty, blonde Canadian known online as Gwen the Milkmaid. She found God and left OnlyFans in 2022 to frolic in front of a camera while she wears feminine sundresses and holds forth on self-sufficiency in her suburban home. Her hope is to someday homestead off-grid in the Canadian wilderness. For now, she gives into “the feminine urge to take care of your husband and make him food all the time.” Previously known as GwenWiz, she was a vegan feminist who published ASMR content on OnlyFans. She still has ASMR content on YouTube, which consists of her reading her favorite Bible verses. Talk about a taboo subject to play with!

The Milkmaid likes to hold forth about her red-pilled, anti-feminist, anti-vax, anti-contraception, small government, conspiracy theory, homesteading lifestyle. All while rocking leg-of-mutton sleeves on her cottagecore dresses.

Other tradfluencers worth studying include Cynthia Loewen, Rachel Joy, Sarah Wild Mothering, Kelly Havens, Australian YouTuber Daisy Cousens, Emily Mariko, Ekartina Anderson, Isa Ryan, Ivy Van Dusen, and South African and German model Nara Smith. These women share a definite philosophy of anti-feminism, anti-sexual revolution, obsessive mothering, constant pregnancy, “traditional” womanhood, meals made from scratch, how awesome the patriarchy is, homeschooling, how to marry a “high-value man,” and where to purchase appropriate garments. Not make, buy.

Making the Tradwife Aesthetic Yours

It doesn’t take a genuine tradwife to see how this coy, always smiling, fresh-faced, rose-colored glasses, retro rewrite of the 1950s housewife or farm girl can be fun to roleplay and sexify. It’s much better than the sad reality of the chain-smoking, martini-guzzling, prescription drug-dependent women who sometimes suffered from “housewife syndrome,” which could result in a lobotomy or commitment to a mental hospital.

Adult entertainment provides an escape from that sad reality while still playing with the obvious Dominant/submissive power dynamics and aesthetics. You don’t have to be Mormon like many mainstream tradwives are to play dress-up, style your hair, apply tasteful cosmetics, speak in a soothing voice, and act like men, their wishes, and birthing their babies are the end all and be all of your existence. A study published by Global Network on Extremism and Technology and an analysis by Media Matters revealed that mainstream social media tradwife profiles often lead to radical far-right accounts and sources. Unapologetically sexy tradwife personas provide an opportunity for fans to avoid that fate.

While it’s tempting to think that the tradwife audience is women who want to learn how to milk cows or tend chickens without mussing their hair, the truth is that most of the followers are right-leaning men. Based on some of the comments made on social media that is not affiliated with the women’s accounts, the idea of an adoring and sexually submissive woman wearing cocktail culture or Little House on the Prairie garments is entirely fapable.

If porn-adjacent content gets that reaction, imagine being able to push through the boundaries of more restrictive social media platforms! Despite the reality of stress that results from the male-as-breadwinner who rarely sees his kids or wife's lifestyle, it may be comforting for a man to escape into the fantasy for a while. What kind of fantasy world these Donna Reed fetishists want to dabble in can range from being a pussy whipped husband, a misogynist husband, a transactional husband, a stern and reprimanding husband, a dominant husband, or a frazzled husband who needs to be revitalized after a hard day’s work. Since women are abandoning traditional roles and religion in droves, being able to flex masculine privilege can be cathartic in the right environment.

Tradwife Tribute

Chances are slim that many women will be interested in full-frontal tradwife content, although there will be some. Most visitors will be men, some of whom will be happy to buy some modest, feminine clothes reminiscent of earlier days for their favorite model to wear and possibly remove. If you choose to turn the kitchen into an erotic playground, gifts of spice, flour, and other food and cooking-related goods would be appropriate, especially if someone has a specific scenario they’d like to see and participate in.

If you still need inspiration and a better understanding of the tradwife mentality, behavior, mannerisms, dress sense, and romanticized view of the post-WWII household, there’s always Jasmine Dinis’ $4,858 Homestead Bundle. Another off-grid tradwife, Dinis’ ebooks cover homesteading, organic gardening, family recipes, natural remedies, crafting, homeschooling, non-toxic beauty products, embroidery, canning, quilting, raising chickens, making soap, and endless praise and advice about sourdough for starters. If nothing else, by the time you wade through all of that, you can create your own X-rated tradwife course.