Skeptic or Worshipper, the Elusive G-Spot is Chronically Misunderstood.
The G-Spot. Bigfoot. Nessie. Chupacabra. Ghosts. UFOs. Poltergeists. The Roswell incident. Area 51 aliens. Sewer alligators. What do these things have in common? Not everyone believes they exist. Women throughout the globe swear there is a G-Spot. Men throughout the world aren’t sure what to do with it if there is. Let us explore the facts and fiction about the magical, mythical, elusive, legendary, and woefully misunderstood G-Spot.
Like the sand-covered “Lost City of DeMille” movie set of Cecil B. DeMille’s 1923 silent, black-and-white epic 10 Commandments, the G-Spot does not reveal itself on a schedule. Some women never experience an orgasmic or particularly sensual response to stimulation of the area where the G-Spot “should” be. Other women teach workshops on how to not only enjoy a G-Spot orgasm but to expel “feminine fountains” of fluid during “Sacred squirting.” Most women are somewhere in between.
Its existence is still in question today, what we call the G-Spot today was “discovered” in 1950 by Dr. Ernst Gräfenberg. He reported an erogenous zone found a few inches inside the vagina on its “upper” wall. Further, he noted that if the zone were stimulated, it would swell, sometimes produce a milky fluid, and result in sexual pleasure. Thirty years later, Dr. Beverly Whipple and her associates double-checked Gräfenberg’s findings. They found that Gräfenberg was correct. Known as the Gräfenberg Spot by the men who name anatomical parts, Whipple’s comrades in research wanted to rename the area the “Whipple Tickle.” She declined. Instead, she proposed that it should be called the G-Spot to acknowledge Gräfenberg’s work.
Researchers in 2017 tried to find the elusive Whipple Tickle G-Spot in 13 female cadavers. Alas, the cadavers did not cooperate, and no G-Spots were found. This is likely because it is not a “spot,” per se. A 2022 editorial in Sexual Medicine Reviews observed that it’s a continuation of the nerves and tissues that make up the clitoral network. It includes the clitoris, urethra, and anterior vaginal wall. To many who cherish the G-Spot, the urethral sponge and Skene gland that bookends the female urethra make up the female equivalent of a prostate. Although not all scientists acknowledge that a female prostate exists, in 2001, the Federative Committee of Anatomical Terminology accepted the term as a backup for Skene’s gland.
Stimulation of the G-Spot can lead to what is called “female ejaculation.” This is not the same as “squirting.” We know this because a study where participants’ urethras were injected with blue dye showed that ejaculation that contained prostate-specific antigens and fructose originated in the Skene’s gland. Squirting, which is enjoyable for its own reasons, originates in the bladder. It includes urea, creatinine, uric acid, lower amounts of prostate-specific antigens, and a lot of water. Either way, women report that once they get over their embarrassment, the experience can be amazing. sometimes even emotional.
Women are lucky to have the G-Spot discussed seriously but there’s a lot of misinformation going around even from its fans. The most common myth is that the way to make the G-Spot happy is to use a palm-up “come hither” motion with two fingers about two-to-three inches inside of the vagina. This is a good way to get to know the area and some women find it arousing, although the Skene’s gland can be finicky. Pressing upwards against the vaginal wall once an area with engorged, rougher tissue and greater sensitivity is located and then circling it can be effective since the gland prefers pressure over stroking, especially near the cervix.
The good news for people who have penises or amazing vibrators/dildos is that although the G-Spot can initially be difficult to locate in women who have them, penetration can stimulate them. Some couples have had good experiences with cowgirl and doggy style. The Coital Alignment Technique (CAT) is also recommended by researchers. This position is much like missionary with the man on top, but he needs to move his pelvis up and forward during thrusts. A wedge or pillow can help achieve the right angle for the man to “ride high” and focus on providing pressure.
A talented hand with or without G-Spot angled toys can also do the job. Remember: hands and toys need to be clean and yes, that includes fingernails. Lube and latex, nitrile, vinyl, or poly disposable gloves can be useful. Combining G-Spot stimulation with attention to the clitoris or vulva can result in even greater satisfaction.
Further complicating the already confusing subject of the G-Spot are the skeptics who contend it does not exist at all and point out that it would make delivering a baby an even more painful experience. There are also those who believe it exists but is associated with the urethral sponge. The latter contend that, unlike the Skene’s gland, the urethral sponge has both erectile tissue and sensitive nerve endings.
Erotic intimacy can provide a burst of oxytocin, which helps enhance emotional connection, inspire relaxation, and aid sleep. Released endorphins boost the immune system, help improve heart health, and bring down blood pressure. G-Spot orgasms can be amazing. Not all women experience them and that’s fine. There are many ways to experience ecstasy with or without orgasm. The G-Spot is only one area of the female body that provides sexual pleasure. Whether we have, don’t have, can’t find, or can’t leave the G-Spot alone, remember: it’s not a competition.