The XCritic Interview: Jane Wilde

April 9, 2020
DEMARKO

April 2020 will go down as a time that is never forgotten. Yes, there is so much going on in the “real” world that has and will continue to change our society forever. One thing that stays true to form is that age old saying, “life goes on.” Yes, it sure does but let us stop and take a look at what “life” and “reality” truly are. When I first met Jane Wilde, which I did not realize until I was browsing through some old photos, remembering good times, with great people, at events that truly changed my life, that I stumbled upon a shot of a blonde haired beauty who had the look of this gorgeous, charismatic enigma. That is the only way I can describe Jane Wilde. Our meeting was brief but I was lucky enough to be around her general vicinity in the club most of the night. I was able to observe from a distance with my dates partying the night away. Jane, she had this look of determination always on her face that night. She looked like she was getting ready for medical boards in the morning her focus was that keen. When I sat down with Jane as I landed this interview that I looked forward to so much, I learned that this kind of focus, that is Jane Wilde. She is a woman whose daily life, career and brand name have all been carefully planned out. The shade of lipstick. The hair “do” and how wonderful it has been to discover on Twitter that she prefers to be bushy haired and “all natural.” Or so it seems. I learned that this Spiegler Girl has been a fan of this industry, embraced sexuality to the highest extent and yielded the will of the industry to work for her. I discovered that the scowling look on her face was not anger that June night years ago. No, it was something more. It was the look of a student studying the game. It was a model absorbing all that was around her and at the top of the list of “actions for success” was learning the ropes and their feel to ascend to the top herself one day. That day is right now. In part one of our interview we learned the basics, talked shop and shed a little light on her Jonni Darkko showcase Jane’s Anal Addiction, now, we take things even deeper. That is the only thing you can do when it is Jane Wilde that is in your “guest” chair.

Don Juan: (We begin where we left off. Jane has just told me the only reason she is where she is. Which is due to her fans and their support. She tells me, “I owe everything to them because they saw something in me before I even did. So fucking powerful I can not respond to what that makes me feel.) Yeah, yeah, that is amazing dude. That is the beauty of life, it is always like that. I mean it’s unexpected and then it just it happens, BOOM, with the blink of an eye! You know, when I wrote you and I said that you inspired so much with other performers it was that character right there that I saw and sensed and I know now, this is what makes them work harder and believe in themselves. The way the industry goes is just like you said it does. When you have four thousand followers and you think that no one is going to see things in yourself. When no one sees something great not even you and then presto, stardom hits. It is difficult as well. This is modeling, this is healthy competition. A model always sees her imperfections first. You see that before the beauty. Even if you have the best make-up crew, the best wardrobe in the industry, it is still so fucking hard. I know a lot of people who have met you, who have worked with you and they have said you help them to see that in themselves. That is a special thing in this world.

Jane Wilde: Well, I really hope that is the case and I really appreciate you saying that. Because that would make it more meaningful and worth it for me. If I could help other people realize that no matter what you think about yourself, if you just get out there and fucking work it and you do your best, you will get better and people will want to watch you. People do want to watch you no matter what. I am sure people wanted to watch me, even in my first few scenes. It was so awkward, I had no idea what I was doing, I did not like how I looked and people told me today that they still watched what I did, even back then. A lot of those same people are with me now. They have stuck with me through the evolution of everything. They were instrumental in me becoming another version of myself. For those fans to still be with me and still appreciate me and give love my entire journey, it shows how meaningful everything is for me personally. I think porn is a pretty funny thing. For instance, let’s say that we have Ariana Grande. A woman who has an enormous fan base on a public scale. A following that is worldwide and none of her fans are quiet about showing it to her. I guess what I am saying is that it is socially acceptable to be an Ariana Grande fan. Then, in the same light, a porn star and following one is still considered to be so taboo. It is not something that people really talk about.

Day to day life has become something that is lived online. Your day to day porn fans obviously exist, I talk to them every day. I see these fans at conventions like eXXXotica and AVN. That is when we get to really feel what it is like to be a celebrity. It is a feeling that all of our hard work is paying off, because these are the people that really appreciate it, coming out of their way, spending money to come and see us and tell us how much they appreciate what we do. Then take a photo so they can remember that moment forever. That makes dealing with the taboos of society worth it. For girls to be looking at me as an example. To be honest, I have no idea what I am doing. Yes, I figure certain things out to an extended level now but everything that I have done, it was not planned. This is something that I am adapting to and I try to make moves with a bit more wisdom than before but I think it took not doing certain things when I started up to become what I am today to my fans. I feel now that you can’t always prepare for everything because the best laid plans seem to always go awry. Maybe that is the one truth of it all that things never go the way that you think they will. It is far better to take opportunities as they come. Be humble as you hustle. Live your life while doing all this. Be the same person that you were before, just use the new experiences for what they are.

Don Juan: That is some of the best insight and knowledge I have ever seen a performer leave for another. I tell that so many times to the girls but sometimes, you have to hear it from one of your own. That is just how it is in every game. How this will grow with you as a woman is I think of some of my friends who have retired from the business and they are raising families, enjoying a new chapter in their life and they have applied what they did in this industry to what they do now. Which if that means becoming the greatest fucking PTA mom on earth than that is what you do. It becomes something that reaches everywhere and stays with you. This leads me perfectly into our next question. When a performer is young and has such exuberance like you do and is able to show off that exuberance at so many levels people will not always see the depths that are within you. They simply see that marvelous show on the outside only. The fans never get to see or know the intricacy that is deep within you as a person. So, the question I would love to ask is what does the term sexuality mean to you?

Jane Wilde: It is interesting. I understand how most people see it. How it is defined as a word. How a person uses it in their speech. Sexuality to me. I don’t know if it is necessarily how you feel about yourself sexually and every person is a sexual being. When it comes to people. I don’t know whether we know it or not, whether we believe it or not, it is about how much you embrace. I think sexuality is like a scale that way. I have heard that term used so many times when people talk about their sexuality. It is a very accurate description to me. I love that word and what it represents. It is a scale that is different for each person but what is weighed is all about how much you embrace and put out there in the world. I think an even better view is not just what you put out into the world but what you do for yourself. An analogy that comes to mind is a stripper. Let’s say you are a stripper. That person goes home to the family after work and they still have that sexuality they had onstage. It is just something a little different when you are with a husband and a boyfriend. There are a lot of people who would have trouble bringing that type of outgoing behavior you have when you are dancing at the club, home with you because of how society says something should be. A woman who is a mother as well, she will get that thought within her that society teaches us that a mother can not act this way or follow her sexuality at all. People have to always work against the grain. It seems that to be able to just feel that comfort in themselves, that just because I have children does not mean that I have to do this, or that to bend to society's standard. I think that no matter what the case may be, people should know that they are entitled to be the sexual beings they want to be and embrace who they are inside. I would say that women who disregard others' opinions about it should just embrace their sexuality. They should always put something as valuable as their own opinion out there for no one's sake but their own. I think the women that do that are just badass. It can be something tougher than people could imagine for a woman to embrace her sexuality. It is something all women can do because it is a natural instinct within us all.

Don Juan: Yes, that is fucking awesome dude! There is no such thing as a wrong answer when it comes to what sexuality is in this life. I love how you described what it is within society that can keep women especially from reaching such mountaintops of inner peace. That fucking rocks what you just said. I think that sexuality is a key that unlocks all of life’s mysteries and I mean all of them. People always tell me, well that is because you were in the business and my answer to that always is, “fuck no!” When you unlock that within yourself, it is as if the world around you becomes different. Even if that life has not changed in twenty-five years. People become different when they are not inhibited. Shit, I use to be the shyest person on the fucking planet but it is the evolution of one's sexuality that changes that. People like you are proof of that darlin’.

Jane Wilde: Thank you and once again I totally agree when you see someone so open with their sexuality, which is what I try and do and try to show people that you can not talk down to me or other people who are doing what I am doing or just trying to discover their own sexuality. I do not have a problem with anything that I am doing. I do not see anything wrong with it. I don’t think that people realize that when they judge someone like me it does not affect me, it affects you. That is a personal problem on your end. This is why I try to show people that this is what I love, this is what I do, this is what I am good at. Maybe along the way, if I am lucky, I will inspire someone on a smaller scale to say, “I am not able to do what she is doing but maybe I could open up to my partner that I am into this, or I am into that.” I hope that it inspires people to go out and explore who they are, at a club, with fetishes by exploring their own sexuality. That is what I hope that I can start to get people to see and do within their realm of sexuality. I think it begins to acknowledge that it is there. By ignoring it, you are not going to make it go away. It is actually going to make it harder in the long run for you to embrace or even just find out who you really are. It is better to just take that jump and to look back and be proud of it.

Don Juan: THAT IS THE BEST FUCKING ANSWER I have ever gotten! That is a wisdom that is so fucking powerful. You are making me want to scream to the rooftops about it with just your words. “By ignoring it, you will not make it go away.” It is not something to suppress. Fuck dude, I have been trying to word that for fucking ten years. No bullshit.

Jane Wilde: Well, now you don’t have to try anymore now don’t you. (After I let out this monstrous laugh that probably ruptured her fucking eardrums with, I was just so enthralled by who this young woman is. She is blunt, she is charismatic and it is all good. I don’t think a twenty-one-year-old soon to be sex symbol should ever have reserve. She is larger than life and offers no apologies. You need that in the world. That is what all natural born leaders have no matter what they put out as their calling card.)

Don Juan: Dude, you are fucking badass, I really mean that. Moving into this next question. This one, I really have to see from your perspective. The first rule of all things is that a person should never assume things. Assumption is the mother of all fuck ups. My thoughts of you have always been that you can perform so well and you can become these characters that have multiple sides to their being. In my opinion I guess it is because you are a romantic? Or, should I say that is my guess of a trait that you have. I have always wanted to ask you because of your confidence. In today’s world, being a young beautiful woman, is it more difficult to have a man be romantic with you? When someone is going to come up to you Jane Wilde and the woman behind the performer, do you find that it is you that has to instigate conversation? Or is there still such a thing as men that chase you and show you romance in today’s world.

Jane Wilde: There definitely is still romance. This is something that I have been gaining a bit more of an appreciation for just recently. I tell this to a lot of people who ask and I think it is hard for them to believe but I have never had a “real” boyfriend. Then most people will look at me like I have three heads. Being that I am only twenty-one, I did not have a boyfriend in high school and if I did, I doubt that it would have lasted this long. I have been out doing things, living life. So, I am always wondering why people would always think that I would be so experienced in having these long-lasting, meaningful relationships? I am only twenty-one, so now I am finally experiencing romance. Or what I guess you would call romance for the first time. I am not going to lie, I find it to be rewarding. I used to act like I did not want or need romance or even affection like that. It was cooler and easier to just be a slut than to deal with those kinds of feelings that come with romance or that meaningful relationship. I still feel like a slut in terms of not having any qualms about who I have sex with. That has always been something open for me. I pretty much do what I want being a slut. I do realize now that being a slut does not mean that I do not want a primary person that I want to share meaningful moments with. I do not want someone who is uptight with my career choice. I would rather have someone who has the same career. I do not know how I could possibly relate to a person who was not on the same level that I am with what I do. I think I would definitely want someone who is a sex worker or appreciates what I do, who views what I do as something significant. So, I don’t think that romance is dead. I think that I have been ignoring it, or pushing it away because I don’t think that I wanted it. I was scared to have it and now I am finally comfortable in a place within my career and with my sexuality, that I can acknowledge that I do want that with one person or with multiple. I am not afraid of getting it from someone. I will accept it if it is given to me.

Don Juan: That is badass, dude. I had to ask that because with my friends in the business, with cousins, nieces, nephews I ran into this shit with the younger men of the world. The younger ones and we will use the one who is dating my neighbor's daughter. For example, I constantly have to tell this guy, “all you have to do is say this, or do that.” They are so oblivious to it. I had to ask a confident young woman like you, what you see within this realm of the modern man and modern-day love, romance, whatever you wish to call it. I had to find out if there are still men out there chasing women.

Jane Wilde: Yeah, there definitely is. I have experienced that in the last few months. I have really experienced things that I never have before in my life. I’m not that old but I never had simple things like having a guy hold a car door open for me occur. Because why would I, I have never been in that situation before. It is simply a nice feeling to see something as basic as a guy having manners. To meet someone who considers things that other people didn’t.

Don Juan: Romance is the bomb-diggity dude. Truthfully, I think that sex is the last link that combines a powerful chain of things that bond two people together. It is a very powerful, emotional part of a relationship but I think that it is the last link to everything. I think that so many people base relationships on sex. Yeah, sex is nice, OK it is fucking awesome but it is that bond that is most important.

Jane Wilde: You know, even before sex, they are looking at physical appearances and first impressions, which in my opinion is soooooooo the least important thing. First impressions can have some importance and of course, there are times when I can get weirded out from a first impression but looks, well, they don't matter as much as people think they do. I mean for me, sex is a very important part of the relationship for me because of the way that I bond with people with it. It is not just about getting off. I have to meet somebody who is compatible on that level.

Don Juan: Yes, even though it has sounded like I was saying sex does not matter it does. I think sex is that weird part of ourselves that we share with other people. I agree with you, first impressions are bullshit because the weirder the person in my opinion, the better person they are. It means that they are a thinker, they are an innovator. Most time you won’t get to see all of that until you are deep in a relationship or when you are having sex.

Jane Wilde: The more you do it, the more comfortable you are with being yourself. You are at your most raw version of yourself when you are having sex. It is something were you expose who you are more and more each time and if it is with the same person, it is just inevitable that you will get to know someone on a deeper level even if you are not trying to.

Don Juan: My goodness. You have simply blown my mind here. I am speechless. So, instead of fighting it, I will just ask the last two questions and I will let you go darlin’. You have simply been magnifique. So, let’s say you were going to call it quits tomorrow. I would love to know, what is Jane’s greatest accomplishment? The hypothetical is that you would be quitting today and you must tell all you fans what you think is your greatest piece of work. What would that be?

Jane Wilde: Oh, it would have to be my showcase definitely. I am so proud of it. I have never been more proud of anything that I have ever done in my life. Now, even though I am young and just getting my career going, I hope to have more things happen like this in the future. This is what I would tell fans is what they must buy, what is my best work if I were quitting today but I am not. This is something so special to me that I hope that no matter what happens in the future, no matter where life takes me, that I can do something that has as much meaning to me as this showcase does. I can remember shooting it like it was yesterday. I can still see all the things we did very clearly in my mind. It is something solid that I put a lot of effort and a lot of work into. My collaboration with Jonni, it was just so worth it. What we did together was something so meaningful. I am someone who is obsessed with the showcase genre of porn. Yes, I have always been someone who loves his movies. I feel so honored to be able to join the ranks of some of the greatest talent ever, in the history of this industry in my opinion when it comes to his films. This is the movie that defines me at this point in my career.

I also have a few scenes that I have a lot of pride for. My anal, my gonzo scenes, they are something that define a lot of who I am and try to be as a performer, especially with Evil Angel. Whenever I work with Evil Angel the only thing I can say is that they always bring out the best in me. I don’t know anything about how the visual creation process works yet. Or how it all comes to be when a film is created with Evil Angel. What I can tell you is that everything is just so amazing to me when I get to see that final product. Everything is so versatile with them, I love every scene that I have done with them. With Jules Jordan, obviously, my anal scene with Dredd is and will always be a big highlight of my career. So far, that scene has become something unforgettable because it is something that I never thought that I could do in my life, ever! It went from being something that I did into something that I like and love so much. I really like that scene. Once I was finished with that scene, that was when I realized that I could do anything that I set my mind to in this industry. Now, are there any others that I can really say define me? Yes, my first DP and my first anal. Those were big moments for me. Those are all occasions that are just iconic in my mind, with my career so far. They were all productions that I was so glad that they worked out the way that they did. I did not plan anything out obviously but it could not have worked out any better than it has. Those would be my parting words if this were my goodbye and then I would go off into the sunset as they say.

Don Juan: YES! (This woman is commanding. Not to talk bad about most performers because I know why they do it. I have asked many and I mean many performers this very question. Few will give an answer out of respect for everyone they have worked for. The truth of this question is not to make anyone look bad or feel insignificant. It is to show what films meant to the artists who perform in them. I will admit, I can not believe that at this point I am talking to a woman who has only been alive for twenty-one years. Her wisdom, her power and premise in the field she works in, it is years ahead of her time. This has to be what people feel when they meet people who will forever change the game as they know it, no matter what profession they are in.) I have to know, what did you do when you got that news that you were going to getting a showcase with Evil Angel and fucking Jonni Darkko? Oh my God, I would have fucking went apeshit. Did you agent call you and tell you, I must hear this story.

Jane Wilde: It is actually a very funny story. It is so unconventional. I was the one who wanted a showcase!

Don Juan: YEAAAAAAAHHHHHHH! That is what I wanted to hear. (Yes I nearly blew her fucking eardrums out. She just has something cooler than fucking cool. You have to be someone who not only has confidence but you better have your A-game ready, you better know the score if you go to Jonni Darkko with the idea and it is because the man is a filmmaker. She just gets more badass every second to the point you stand up and cheer. That is what I did.)

Jane Wilde: I had always wanted this. Most people who know me, they know that this was what I wanted, they fucking knew. I wanted it so bad and I knew at that point after the few times that I had shot with Jonni, I knew that we had a really good connection. He and I always create this really wonderful energy. Which is what he calls the way that performers and directors come together to make a product. I just knew something good was coming. I wanted to do my blow bang, I had been itching to try double anal. Even if I never do it again, I knew that I wanted to experience it. That is what my career has always been about. Being true to the things that I want to do. I am not a performer who just goes with what is lined up next for your career. I am doing things that I want to do. I am not that person that just “goes with the flow.” I will never try to be something that I am not. This has always been about my real sexual exploration. So, when I wanted to do DP, I did DP. Then I decided I wanted to do double anal. So, I went to Jonni directly and when we were last shooting together and I said to him, “Jonni, I know that I had told you that I wanted to do a blow bang and you already said let’s do it.” Then I said to him, “I don’t want to just do a blow bang, I think I want to do double anal. So what do you think if we did a whole movie?” So it was me that presented it to him. I am not ashamed, I am not embarrassed. I knew what I wanted and I went out there and I took the opportunity to ask and he said yes. That was when he said, “yeah, you are ready! Let’s do it!” From there it just started to get a life of its own and that is how it all began.

Don Juan: Dude, that is fucking awesome. That is epic. It is something that would only work with you. I mean that. You have such a combination of personality and professionalism. I wish I could have been in Jonni’s head when he was coming up with ideas for the film in his head. That would be a real fucking treat. My hat goes off you. It takes guts to succeed in life and you are simply the most fearless young woman I have met in many and I mean many years. You are amazing.

Jane Wilde: Thank you and I did not give them any ideas. I just presented things out in the open of what my desires were. I could see as things began, that the wheels of creativity were spinning around in his head and that is what I felt before I even said my first words as we got things going. I saw there was something in his head. There was a vision. I kind of thought to myself, was he was thinking that this was the right time to do everything with me? I think that he saw how much I really wanted to do this and that combination is what led to the things we created. I think we both said, “I don’t think that there is any better time than the present." The more that you want something in your life, the better things will be in my opinion. That is why the blow bang scene and the double anal felt so amazing to me. These were not just amazing scenes but amazing experiences. Everything that we filmed was in the moment. I was so eager and so excited to finally do it. I think that the fans will be able to tell that I was thinking about it for a while. It made waiting for the right moment so worth it for me. To have that much anticipation, then to have everything come out crisp visually. I could not ask for more. I don’t even feel like I fully deserve it. All I can say right now, is thank you so much.

Don Juan: I am telling you Jane, when the photos first came out, I was fucking blown away. I have seen you shot by many of the industry greats and when I saw these promo stills, the first thing that I said to myself was, “this is the most sophisticated I have ever seen you look.” I mean just the way that the light reflects and meshes with your face, your body, your shoulders, they are the best I have ever seen with you.

Jane Wilde: You know, I think right now is the best that I have ever looked. I am finally at a point where I am happy with how I look in my career. The make-up artist that Jonni uses, they are these amazing ladies that know what they are doing and they know how to make you fit his vision by making you know that you look your best. What I think that makes Jonni and I so alike is that we are very, very particular about the make-up. Jonni knows exactly what he wants, he always is specific with what he wants to put out with his films. His make-up crew, they kill it every single fucking time. There is never anything to question. You are just going to look amazing and that is what everything within my showcase is.

Don Juan: Darlin’ I can not tell you enough how wonderful it was to finally meet you, finally speak with you. You have a character that is built for this business. I mean that. You are a true actor. You are a true performer and you understand that there is a love of sexuality, people and fans that must accompany success. My hat goes off to you. So, to end this interview, we must have that Jane Wilde charisma. So, my last inquiry is. You are a strong woman from Queens, who loves hip-hop, who has graced some of the most amazing mainstream blogs and podcasts. You have become one of the youngest women to get a showcase from any company. Tell Don Juan DeMarko, with that amazing Jane Wilde attitude and confidence, something he does not know about Jane Wilde?

Jane Wilde: How the fuck do I know what you do and do not know about me? How is that for an ending? (We both laugh and by goodness, she has the most charming of laughs let me tell you. She left me speechless after.)

That Ladies and gentleman is what you would call the most perfect interview I think that I may have ever been a part of. There are few people who can make me stop and rethink what I believe to be fact and truth. Jane Wilde is one of them. What I can tell you is that being a man who has run things for a few different companies and industries I have worked for. Being a manager, a supervisor, and editor, the boss and everything in between. When it comes to hiring people who make your business better. I would trade every college-educated intern I have ever met for Jane Wilde. She is a woman who pulls no punches. She is a director's dream for many reasons. Many times, you will see that a young star has kinks in the armor. Not Jane Wilde. As we spoke off the record a bit she apologized for nothing and held back zero of her charisma and charm and she did not have to. This is what confidence is, this is how things should always operate in the real world. She has a true passion and for any director who reads this, or producer. She is someone who will sell any film you cast her in. That is just the bottom line. She is also willing to take on the responsibility that comes with stardom. Her love for her fans shows that. During this pandemic, she shows that she is who she says she is. Nothing has changed with Jane Wilde. As a woman who is put in a spot where most shrivel and fail, she is not only making lemonade with lemons. She is putting fucking Country Time out of business. I have watched this film and all I can say fans, the way she describes it all. It is nothing compared to the film. My goodness, if that does not say where she is destined to be in this industry, I do not know what does. It is something special when you meet someone who does not pull any punches, who presents herself with power. The world needs more of that. We need people who have dreams and then, have enough faith in themselves to make them come true. This is power, this is confidence. This is Jane Wilde!