Why Don’t Men Look Like They Are Enjoying Themselves In Porn?

by Coleen Singer at Sssh.com Porn For Women
[image: James Deen]

One of the things that turns me on a lot is seeing the lot of desire and lust in my partners face while we’re having sex, or even better, before sex, so you know that you’re about to get some. The look of someone who is turned on and who wants you, is so hot. The funny thing is, when I watch porn, I’m hard pressed to find men who show any emotion much less that of pleasure or desire. 

Are men in porn robots?

Because they sure seem like it. They have a single minded programming. Get in there and make that woman squeal. It’s like if any kind of emotion or desire shines through they might just burst out in flames. Occasionally I see a real look of pleasure, those glimpses just turn me on so much it’s crazy.

Porn is for men

I know most porn used to be traditionally for men, so it makes sense that all the desire-y bits are focused on the women. The man’s job is to get in there and fuck her like he’s some robotic lumberjack. But isn’t it about time that shit changed? More women are watching porn now, and I am seriously curious what women think about this robot look.

It’s not only the men I’m afraid

I’ve recently gotten into sexy animated GIFs and I spend hours on uhm, research, yeah, looking at faces in porn. Now, I can never tell for sure if the men and women are having a good time - and I’m sure most are to a certain level, and that’s not what I want to get into. But when watching hours of GIFs of faces of both men and women, you end up comparing, why some of these people look like they’re having a great time, and some look like they’re pretending. Are some better actors than others?

The thing is, I notice that while the men have to remain stoic throughout, the women seem to go the opposite direction. If you’ve seen Japanese porn and wonder why these women moan like they’re being tortured, then I’m pretty sure they’re watching Western porn and thinking the same thing. What are these women feeling so much pleasure over? 

Not complaining

Again, who am I to say what someone’s cum face is. The thing is that if we’re learning about sex from porn, then shouldn’t the porn be showing the good bits of having sex too. Or at least the more realistic bits? Men who moan, who look like they desire (or can desire), women who don’t cry out in ‘pleasure’ at the slightest touch, etc. I get that porn is fantasy. But the fact is that this medium of ‘fantasy’ is not being used to teach very real people. And I’m not saying make porn into real sex because that shit is messy, but at least, have some real bits and bobs in there no? What do you think?

Coleen Singer is a writer, photographer, film editor and all-around geeky gal at Sssh.com, where she often waxes eloquent about sex, porn, sex toys, censorship, the literary and pandering evils of Fifty Shades of Grey and other topics not likely to be found on the Pulitzer Prize shortlist. She is also the editor and curator of EroticScribes.com and a film producer at BDSM site, Wasteland.com. When she is not doing all of the above, Singer is an amateur stock-car racer and enjoys modifying vintage 1970s cars for the racetrack. Oh, she also likes porn.

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