Waiting To Have Sex In A Relationship, It’s a Growing Trend!

Waiting To Have Sex In A Relationship, It's a Growing Trend!

Waiting for sex while dating?!!? Gasp! Record break. Yep. There's a growing trend in gay dating, and men are now waiting a bit before jumping into bed. With popular shows like Heated Rivalry and Fellow Travelers, gay men are painted as being horn dogs just waiting for the opportunity to fuck. Bad stereotype? Or truth? Well, among our gay circles, we do have more than our fair share of sluts. LOL. As gay men, we should feel free to embrace and celebrate our sexuality, especially for those of us who were repressed in the closet. But now with the popularity of Grindr and Sniffies, gay sex has become very easy to get. Has the fun of gay sex kind of dulled? Some of us are waiting to consummate our relationship until we are well into dating someone. There are some benefits.

Without the hormones and horniness of having sex, we can see clearly. Sometimes, a good jump in the sack can cloud our view or dim red flags. When you take sex out of it, you are dealing with clarity as to the compatibility of someone in a relationship. Many times, we ignore the fact that someone just isn't a good fit for us when their big dick or bubble butt is involved.

The buildup in waiting for sex can lead to a very powerful first time and better orgasms. If you had a refrigerator full of delicious chocolate cake, you'd eat it quickly and get bored of it. But if you have to wait for it, you are going to savor the taste and the experience. Adding some anticipation to your first fuck with your man just adds a different level of connection. No doubt, you'll go a few rounds before calling it quits.

When you don't jump into bed right off that bat, the romance factor is increased. You pay attention to the details of your dates, and the romance aspect of them. Holding hands and making out over candle light dinners will have more of an impact when you aren't skipping the romance to get off.

Couples who have waited to have sex have reported longer term relationships. Without sex, the two focus on building a friendship rather than a fuckship. This level of intimacy and friendship builds a strong foundation that can overcome all the bumps and bruises that occur in dating. You can also see who is in the relationship to date you, and not just your body. If someone can't wait and connect with you in different ways, they probably aren't the best candidate for a long term relationship.

Without focusing on cumming, you build a level of communication that is full of trust and honesty. These factors are key for building a strong relationship. Is sex important in a relationship? Definitely. But waiting to add it to the mix may offer some benefits in the long run. If you don't think you could start dating someone without having sex, what are you really valuing in the relationship?

Would you consider waiting a bit before jumping into bed?

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