Gay Group Sex Done Right: The Chad Way

Gay Group Sex Done Right: The Chad Way

I'm not going to say that I am a super slut, but let's just say that I have had more than my share of group sex experiences. Some have been impromptu, many have been planned. And I don't want to brag, or anything, but I have also been the star of some group experiences, if you know what I mean, wink, wink. Well, I don't know what's been happening, but lately, some of you guys have gotten pretty sloppy with your group sex get-togethers. There are just certain things that need to be in place and understood if you are going to dip your toes into the orgy scene. Unlike what you see in gay porn, group sex needs a little structure and a little planning; the magic doesn't just happen. Having the right elements in place can be the difference between a fun romp with hot guys and an awkward and lifeless session of bad positions and weird groans. LOL.

If you are the host, choose the topic of your group sex. Is it a bukkake session, a cumdump, an open position orgy, a circle jerk, or what? Be clear as to what exactly it is that you are hosting. If you aren't clear about the intention of your group, you'll get guys just sitting there awkwardly in a corner, just jerking off and watching, because they don't feel comfortable participating. Or you might get a bunch of bottoms when you actually need tops for a cumpdump power bottom. Group sex can evolve naturally, but it needs a theme to get everyone on the same page to start with.

Come prepared and ready to go. No matter what side of things you are on (top or bottom), come prepared. No one wants a stinky or musky hole (unless that's the theme), no one wants to deal with an expected mess in the middle of a fucking session - so take a shower, trim those pubes, clean that hole, wash that foreskin, trim those finger and toe nails (yes, your fingers and toes will probably get involved at some point), and be show room new. Come buffed and primed, ready to go. Come looking your best, come groomed your best.

We gays are notoriously late for everything. When attending a group session, don't come late! I can't stress this enough. If you show up late, the action has probably already started, and no one, the host included, is going to want to step away to greet you and get you up to speed as to what is happening. Unless you are bringing some stellar dick or the best ass in the world, your late arrival will be more of a nuisance than a welcome intrusion. And if you are late, don't just lurk around in the corner like a weirdo. Oy.

If you are the host, you have some responsibilities! You don't need to provide a buffet or hotel turn-down service, but you do need to have plenty of lube, towels, and water bottles available. Those are the bare basics. If you can't provide that, then don't host. You would assume that people would bring their own travel lube, but that isn't the case, and, trust me, you would rather have plenty on hand than have to stop a hot session midway just because everyone is dry. You will need more lube than you think when all of these holes and poles show up. Take the time and order a package of cheap hand towels from Amazon. Put them in a stack close to the group sex action. Guys will be finishing up all at different times, so make it easy on them (and yourself) to grab a towel and clean up whenever they need to. Side note, if you are a clean freak and don't want jizz all over your fine sofa - put down sheets or don't host. You want guys to feel free and comfortable letting their juices fly. There is nothing so unsexy as a host who is constantly after their group sex guests to stay off the furniture. Boner kill. As for the water, guys are going to be sweaty and burning calories. Keep your group hydrated to keep the fun going. Just put a package of bottled water by the towels.

Music! If you are the host, play some sexy fucking music. First of all, the music will compensate for any awkward silences that may happen when group sex starts. It puts guys at ease and gets them in the moment. It will also provide a rhythm to get the fucking going. As a bonus, it can also shield the many groans and moans that your neighbors might hear.  Also, pay for the upgraded streaming service. No one wants to hear an ad for a Lexus while they are being DP'd. General deep dance music with no lyrics works best.

If you are hosting a cumdump and you are the cumpdump I highly recommend getting a trusted friend to help facilitate the door. There should be some level of security when having guys come in and out. Having a door guy can help weed out some crazies and also make sure people don't take anything of yours. They can also be active on the apps, hunting for more dick to come partake. They can also be around to help out if someone starts to overstep their boundaries with your body. Give your door person a safe word that means they need to break up what is happening. They can also be the screener to make sure your tops aren't overly drugged out or tipsy.

Communication is key! No always means no, no matter the group setting. Eye contact is a good indicator if someone else in the room wants to fool around with you. Nods are positive communication that yes, you'd like to partake. If someone taps you away, just move on and find someone else. If you are unsure, or if someone is going too far with you, just verbally tell them what you are willing to do. No need to be rude to guys that you aren't interested in, just politely say no. Not everyone is into everyone, even in group sex. Smiling and good humor is allowed! I don't know why so many guys get so serious during group sex. Sex is fun and should be enjoyed!

Monitor your body. If you are getting tired, take a break. If you are getting dehydrated, drink water! If you aren't just into it, don't force yourself into anything. It is ok to leave. If you feel that your body might not be fully prepared for fucking, excuse yourself. From my personal experience, there will be hits and misses when it comes to orgies. You can't control everything, but there are certain things you can have in place to guarantee the basics are taken care of.

Have fun and let me know how it goes!

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