Unleashing your inner dominant doesn’t necessarily mean rolling in with whips and chains (unless that’s your thing—go us!). A little touch of gentle dominance in the bedroom can create a power dynamic that’s equally thrilling and intimate, with just the right mix of naughty and nice. Whether you’re opting for a playful slap, tugging on their hair, or pinning their wrists, these moves let you take control while keeping things safe, sexy, and downright magnetic.
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Ready to awaken your inner dom? Here’s how.
Who needs complex moves when your voice can carry the weight of your control? A well-timed whisper or bold command can send shivers down their spine and solidify your energy as the one steering the ship.
Biting is where intention meets sensation in your pursuit of gentle dominance. A nip here, a nibble there—it’s the animal side of intimacy peeking through, and it’s oh-so-thrilling when paired with your authority in the moment.
There’s a reason so many fantasies involve restraint: limiting movement is the ultimate tease. Pinning their wrists while you’re in the lead allows you to maintain control while dialing up the tension. It’s one of the easiest and sexiest ways to dabble in gentle dominance in the bedroom.
Few moves feel as effortlessly dominant as wrapping your hand into someone’s hair and taking control. When done thoughtfully, hair pulling is a classic technique that screams gentle dominance in the bedroom. Dear reader, please be mindful of how uncomfortable hair-pulling can be for some people. Unless you’ve discussed it with your partner before trying it, wrap your fingers around their roots and ‘grab’ their hair to get their attention. Add dirty talk like “Do you like that?” and “Do you want me to pull hard?” before trying something that can quickly kill the mood.
A well-executed face slap adds a cheeky bit to your exploration of gentle dominance in the bedroom. It’s audacious yet controlled, and the shock of it (in the sexiest way possible) can leave your partner begging for more. This is a personal favorite to incorporate to edge play. If a male is the receiving partner, edging (facilitated by a little slap) can help with endurance and rhythm. If a female is on the receiving end of the face slap, try to time it right before an orgasm. Feel your partner build and climb into their orgasm, and try the slap before they climax. It sets the stage for multiple orgasms.
Why It Works: The surprise factor blends power and seduction. It also shows confidence, which is an absolute turn-on.
How to Do It Right: Keep it light: a playful tap at first and increase the intensity only if they seem into it. Communication is key—smirk, stare them down a little, and feel out the energy before ramping it up.
Dear reader, consent is non-negotiable. Before diving headfirst into gentle dominance in the bedroom, remember that communication is the first step to any spicy power play. Start with a conversation about what feels exciting for both of you and establish boundaries or safe words. Once you know what they’re into, the real fun begins.
Taking control doesn’t have to look like a dungeon scene from an adult film (unless you want it to). It’s the little things that count—being assertive, making daring yet playful moves, and exuding unshakable confidence. Gentle dominance is about balance—showing your partner you’re in command while keeping their comfort and pleasure as your top priority.