Flirting is not taken seriously enough. When was the last time that an elite institution for higher learning held a series of classes with credit toward graduation that covered the fundamentals of being coy, flirtatious, a tease, a femme fatale, an enchantress, a seductress, a siren, a coquette, or a vamp? For some, flirting comes naturally. For others, it’s a great mystery. For those whose livelihoods depend on creating a positive emotional as well as physical impression, adding or refining the art of the flirt can turn first-timers into regulars and regulars into heavier tippers who spend more time with you.
Often shrugged off as shallow, fake, and manipulative, flirting serves important social purposes. In addition to being a way to subtly communicate attraction and interest by either verbal or nonverbal means, it can be a fun, playful, and exciting way to boost your own confidence and self-image, as well as that of your clients. What is “appropriate” flirting behavior changes with the era, social circle, and location. Flirting is more an art than a science.
If there is one thing the adult entertainment industry has learned over the decades, it is that everyone has their own idea about what makes another person physically attractive. The patrons of the erotic arts who seek out online, strip club, video, peep show, still image, hardcore, softcore, or dungeon companionship with an element of emotional connection, however brief and transactional, likewise do so for their own reasons. There are always customers who merely want to get off, while others need to talk openly with someone sexy about taboo or mundane topics, and others who want to have someone in their life to look forward to seeing and spoiling. Of course, there are always the men with bad jokes who want someone to laugh with them.
Although not the full list of admirers; it includes elders, closet-cases, the recently divorced, those in search of kinky roleplay, those with physical disabilities who struggle to experience intimacy, those with autism who need a non-judgmental partner to help them learn the nuanced ways of human seduction, and both the awkward and the smooth wanna-be ladies’ men. Sometimes, even a woman who craves a forbidden encounter with another woman comes to visit. The two things that all of them, except the dudes who just want to get off, have in common are that each wants to feel special and that they have received their money’s worth. If the experience goes well for both of you, they will hopefully want to visit you again.
Ingredients for a Good Flirt
Unless you only communicate with a client through text or voice, you will want to be aware of what your face and body are saying. If you send selfies through text, this will also be useful. A surprising number of nonverbal messages rely on body language.
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Whether you interact in the flesh, through text, a mobile device screen, or the other side of a plexiglass panel, there is more to being a flirt than your body, however mesmerizing that may be. A nimble or playful mind can build and maintain erotic heat quite nicely. Some people flirt recreationally in the wild so they can learn more about someone new.
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One service available to consumers from some providers is the ability to maintain contact through text messages. This may be especially comfortable for younger clients who are used to remote communication. Much of what can be done in other settings can also be accomplished via text. Whether you want to make-believe that you swap notes in class, leave salacious stickies around the house, are or have an anonymous admirer, pretend to text by accident, or are too shy to meet in person, text is there for you.
As before, show real interest in the other person, ask provocative and follow-up questions, bring up some tri that you know about them, give him a nickname that he will like, tell them about something that has happened in real life or your imagination, swap jokes, send sexy or silly emojis, play get-to-know-you games like “Never Have I Ever” or “20 Questions,” boost his ego with a request for advice, and, of course, send him some mild to wild photos.
Enjoy Your Flirt
Throughout all of this, do what you can to remain true to yourself. Some people just do not inspire a flirt, cannot respond to a flirt, or turn a flirt into something more than it is meant to be. But, if you have an idea what your client likes and include some pre-interaction negotiation to confirm, it can be an opportunity to step outside of the typical sex worker/client dynamic with creativity, heart, and a sense of sassy or seductive fun that will make the experience more enjoyable for both of you and, ideally, see return visits and a boost in your income.