5 Tips On How To Communicate Respectfully About Sex

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Let me explain why I'm offering 5 tips on how to communicate respectfully about sex. A few days ago, I went on a date with my wife. We had a great time until a random guy started taking pictures with us. I understood; he was alone, probably didn’t assume we were a couple, and just wanted to have a good time. It seemed harmless until he started pulling us in closer to talk. We asked him to stop and told him he was making us feel uncomfortable. He insisted and asked, “so what?”

Dear reader, threesomes are fucking wonderful! I appreciate the effort to initiate one, but this is not how you approach anyone you want to seduce. I’m here to help you communicate respectfully about sex so that you can enjoy a sex life that is as kinky and freaky as you are.

Since I started dating girls 15 years ago, I’ve realized that, for some reason, saying you are with a girl and therefore not interested sounds like “try harder!” I’ve heard everything from:

“I don’t believe that. Kiss, and I’ll believe you.” Sir, life isn’t a porn set, and you have no game.

“That’s ok; I can handle you both.” Hmmm, hard pass. Probably a different approach would have been successful, buddy.

And my personal favorite:

“You just haven’t been fucked right. I can fix that.” LOL… we love sex; we just don’t want your dick, Mr. Charming.

Those lines can be funny-ish (after the fact), but it’s concerning how frequently they are considered “flirting.” Sexual harassment isn’t funny, cute, charming, or sexy. And no, ALWAYS means no. I do understand that people get aroused thinking about threesomes or about fucking a pornstar; I do too. And if you follow these tips and communicate respectfully about sex, you might get more than you wished for.

Communication about sex is hard work, and men and women aren’t that different. An ever-growing spectrum of genders and orientations can make communication about sex a little tricky. Sometimes, people struggle to communicate, so we must remember that we’re all just socialized to speak and act differently. “Boys will be boys,” right? Not anymore! Nowadays, it’s essential to be mindful of what we say and how we say it because everything seems to be recorded. And something that gets recorded forever, whether out of context or not what you meant, will define your reputation. I wish everyone were respectful for the sake of manners and dignity, but just in case, remember this is the age of the cancel culture, and people are sensitive about sexuality. Disrespect doesn’t go unnoticed anymore.

When communicating, the most important thing to remember is that you are responsible for your message. It doesn’t matter if the other person speaks a different language or is a different gender; if you want to deliver a message, you must adapt to be understood. Here are five tips on how to communicate respectfully about sex:

1. Be direct.

2. Never assume.

3. Be confident.

4. Use your superpower! Trust your intuition and express yourself respectfully.

5. Listening is just as essential as talking in communication.

I know that following these tips will make your life so much easier! They will also elevate your flirting game. Remember them when trying to figure out how to approach a sexy situation, and always present yourself with confidence, respect, and empathy. Whether online or face-to-face, that will make you the best communicator you can be.