Signs Your Girlfriend Is Cheating On You: Debunked

A friend told me she caught her boyfriend smelling her panties because he thinks she’s cheating.

What?

Is that a thing? Is somebody under the impression you can smell your partner’s vagina and notice if she’s having sex with someone else? As if sent by my muse, I scrolled over this:

“Girls, if you cheat can a guy tell your vagina is looser than normal? When having sex with my gf of 3 months I could tell she was much looser than normal. About how much time would you be looser after having sex with someone else? I think she might’ve went to someone else’s house before coming over to mine.”

Sir, following your logic, if she were cheating with someone that has a tiny dick, would her vagina get tighter and stay that way for an extended period of time so his dick would fit perfectly? I hate being the bearer of bad news, but if you are having infidelity issues three months into a relationship, it might not end up very well or last very long. If you think your partner is lying when she says she’s not cheating because you have evidence like text messages, having seen something, or even if it’s just intuition, get professional help or get out of that toxic situation.

As it turns out, there’s a lot of inaccurate information regarding how a woman changes physically and emotionally when cheating. Before getting into common misconceptions, I want to strongly encourage anyone who suspects their partner is cheating to try to have a conversation. I’m aware that most cheaters aren’t going to admit what they’re doing just because you asked and said please and thank you. So, if you are unhappy, feel insecure, paranoid, and believe your suspicions are valid, stand up for yourself and leave that relationship instead of searching for “signs your girlfriend is cheating on you” online.

Some of us may have been a little paranoid in a relationship at some point. Maybe it was about a friend who’s too friendly or someone who makes us feel insecure, but before you go panty sniffing or vagina measuring, think about your relationship and whether it’s right for you.

My grandmother must have told me this parable a hundred times.

A man had to travel for a while, but he suspected his wife was cheating on him with his best friend, who was sleeping on their couch. Before leaving and without her knowing, he managed to put a small but very sharp razor inside her vagina.

The first thing he did when he got back was ask his friend to show him his dick expecting to find some fresh cuts. Without hesitation, his friend dropped his pants, but his penis was fine!

The man felt guilty he didn't trust his wife and best friend until his friend said: "You can trutht me!" (with a new lisp)

If it wasn't clear for some, the best friend hurt his tongue with that razor.

According to my octogenarian grandmother, the lessons are that first of all, foreplay is necessary, and second, trust your gut. I think it’s a funny story, but the truth is, setting traps and playing games does not lead to a healthy relationship.

Now, we debunk. There are many ways your girlfriend can cheat on you, including emotionally, orally, or in intercourse. Inspecting her private parts and underwear for smells isn’t going to help, so don't obsess about cheating; it's not a healthy habit and can ruin your relationship on its own.

According to Debra Rose Wilson, Ph.D., MSN, R.N., IBCLC, AHN-BC, CHT who evidently has a long history of medical education, these are important facts to know about the loosening/tightening of vaginas.

FACT: The pelvic floor muscles surround the vagina. These may weaken over time, which can cause a feeling of looseness in the vagina.

FACT: During sexual arousal, the muscles of the vagina relax, and this enables penetrative sex. These muscles relax slowly, which is why foreplay can be very important. After sex, the vagina returns to its usual shape and tension.

FACT: There is no evidence that sex causes a loosening of the vagina over time.

We KNOW vaginas aren’t going to feel looser because your girlfriend is cheating. Mind you, it might feel looser, and she might be cheating, but these are unrelated. You might just be doing a great job and not giving yourself enough credit! Trying a different sexual position can sometimes change how tight or lose the vagina feels. This may improve sexual satisfaction for both partners.

Now about smelling that your girlfriend is cheating…

“I do have a question to ask. My wife and I have been married for almost 3 years, and there's been times that I've had to leave for the weekend due to my job. Now upon my arrival, of course, I would make love to my wife. But when going down there to give her oral sex, I would get this smell like dried semen. You know? When you have sex and then, a few hours or a day later, when you do go down there again, you get that unique smell? Now, I do love my wife and trust her, but my question is, do women have vaginal discharges that would make her smell like semen?

You know, describing the smell of a vagina can be tricky because they all smell different. Because of the phases of our fertility cycles and the changes in our cervical mucus and vaginal discharges during every cycle, even our own smell isn't always going to be identical. Any change in how vaginal discharge smells is most likely due to sweat, menstrual cycle, bath products, and underwear. Vaginas are home to billions of bacteria that change all the time, also changing their smell.

For women, most affairs start as a normal friendship. The cheating person begins with the intention of being faithful, but their feelings for the other person grow stronger over time. Shit happens. Cheating happens. But when we trust someone, if we worry or suspect that they aren't being monogamous, we ASK them. It would help if you didn’t try to trick your partner with hidden blades, stalk them on social media trying to find clues that aren’t there, or try to analyze their genital scents. You ASK, and if you’re not convinced that your partner is being truthful, you must proceed accordingly.