Best Of Sex Advice: This Isn’t Our First Time

Look, we're not saying that we're some kind of super studs who have conquered every bedroom scenario or even that we have all the answers when it comes to sexual adventure (even if it feels like we've watched it all on our computer screens.) But if there's one thing we do know, it's this—you people have no clue. Whether it's your first time in the missionary, the first time getting pegged in the ass, or your first time using sexual blackmail to score a new living room set, it's clear that most of you don't have slightest idea of how to make it happen without hurting yourselves. But hey, we're not here to judge, we're here to help. So let the sex advice columnists of the world drop some knowledge on you, because goodness knows ... you sure do need it.

· Sex Project (sex-project.com)

so i just started having sex a week or so ago, and i'm still trying to figure out the mechanics of it. maybe i'm just overly nervous, but i'm really wondering what the role of a woman in sex should be. if i'm on the bottom, what should i be doing? should i be thrusting, moving, or what? i don't even know. also, i'm really not even sure what i should be doing on top. it seems like it should be self explanatory, but i'm having a little trouble figuring this all out. thanks.

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· OpenUp: The PuckerUp Forums (puckerup.com)

Girls, do you feel that if you let a guy have your ass you should have his as well with a strapon or a dildo (at least once), or is it ok if it just isn't his thing?

Guys, do you feel obliged to let your girl have a go at your ass (at least once) if she lets you have hers?

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· Dategirl (seattleweekly.com)

my boyfriend and I have a very satisfying sex life. However, I want to throw him a curveball he won't forget anytime soon. I'm just not sure how.

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· Miss Information (nerve.com)

I'm not very sexually experienced. I've only slept with one person ... He bought me a vibrator right before we broke up ... This is going to sound stupid, but I can't figure out how to get it in and make it stay there. Every time I try, my pussy just kind of pushes it out. What the fuck? Am I too loose?

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· Savage Love (thestranger.com)

You've talked about guys masturbating with too firm a grip and doing damage. I'm 21, male, in good shape, and have been jerking off with a death grip since I was 10. Lately my cock has been failing me. I have trouble staying hard, especially when wearing a condom. I've heard that the death grip can decrease sensitivity and make it harder to come, but can it lead to impotence? Is this physical or am I just psyching myself out?

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· Dr. Joyce Brothers (seattlepi.nwsource.com)

My girlfriend's trying to get her husband to buy a new couch and chair for their living room, and he's complaining about the price ... We haven't gone into details, but I gather he likes certain sex things, she doesn't, but if she gives it to him she'll get her couch, and she knows it. Is this right?

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· Love Bites (eyeweekly.com)

I would like to find a job in my field at a company that is geared toward my personal interests: sexuality and BDSM. I have a hard time finding work because normally sex-related companies are small-scale and don't need someone for things such as quality control, forecasting, logistics, project management and analyzing. I'm wondering if you can suggest some positions (not the sexual kind!) in the sex industry that might suit me.

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· Jersey Girls (providencedailydose.com)

Why is it that some girls with wretched smelling vaginas refuse to acknowledge the fact that they have wretched smelling vaginas? I mean, they have to know unless they are totally smell-deaf to it.

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· Get Naked (timeout.com)

Whenever I'm driving alone on a highway (which lately has been a lot, because my girlfriend lives out of state), I always end up with a huge hard-on, and then I can't resist the urge to whip it out and just let it hang out there ... Most of the time, no one notices, but when it does get someone's attention it's inevitably a male truck driver, and when that happens I get so aroused that I have to pull over and jack off. So there you go. What's up with that?

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· Bonus Video Queston! The Condom Wrapper : Dear Prudence (slate.com)

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