Best Of Sex Advice: Virgin Territory

Sometimes we get down on you guys for knowing so little about what goes on in the bedroom, but then we remember that not everyone in the world gets to have sex as often as your average pornstar. (What a bummer, huh?!) In fact, from we can tell by this week's crop of sex questions, most you have never done it at all. There's nothing wrong with that, of course—we all have to start somewhere—but we've always found that the best way to learn is by doing. Just don't go to the Jersey Shore for your education. We love the advice those Jersey Girls dish out, but judging by the questions they get each week, we're beginning to think there might be something wrong with the water down there.

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· Love Bites (eyeweekly.com)

I am finally in a position to relate to people and get things I want, one of those things being solving my little virginity problem. Thing is, after 34 years of just not thinking about it (beyond pornographic wank sessions that have nothing to do with real people), I don't exactly know what I want and truly have no idea how to go about getting it.

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· Sex Project (sex-project.com)

Me and my girlfriend have come to the agreement that when we are both 16 we will have sex (for both of us it will be the first time). How can I make our first time enjoyable and memorable?

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· OpenUp: The PuckerUp Forums (puckerup.com)

I am 44 years old and I am a virgin. When I was younger, I was a momma's boy, I was an only child and was not allowed to go anywhere unless my mother could also follow.

When I finally escaped to college I made sure that I was 100 miles away from home. ... There were women there, but I had no idea how to approach them... so I got drunk.

I haven't dated in over 10 years now. lately my fantasies have gone more from sex with a woman to being sexually dominated by a woman ... Could I possibly meet a woman who would understand and be patient with me?

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· Dr. Dick's Sex Advice (drdicksexadvice.com)

I'm still a virgin, but my bf thinks I'm not. ... We've been going together for about 8 months already and I really want my first time to be with him, but how am I going to act all experienced when I don't know what I'm doing.

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· Savage Love (thestranger.com)

My wife and I were making love the other night and after about 20 minutes of great sex she told me she was going to come. She went ahead and had a great orgasm and then pretty much shut down. ... She felt that since on other (rare) occasions I have had an orgasm and she hasn't, it was okay to leave me the way she did. What gives?

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· Ask Rachel & Claire (babeland.com)

Do you have any tips on how I could make my solo sex life more satisfying? I know what to do to get myself off, but I want something more. Is this all there is?

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· Dear Deidre (thesunk.co.uk)

My girlfriend has tried everything, including oral sex, but I still can't climax when we make love. I'm 24 and I'm not as sexually experienced as I would like. I have only had sex a few times with previous girlfriends and I couldn't climax then. In fact, it has only ever happened when I'm asleep, during a dream.

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· Miss Information (nerve.com)

It's my biggest fantasy to watch my girl bang another man. How can I get her to cross over that imaginary (but very real) line?

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· Jersey Girls (providencedailydose.com)

The other night I went home with a fat chick. We messed around all night and I got the best blowjob of my life. When I told my boys, they didn't seem surprised - apparently it's common knowledge that fat chicks suck a mean dick. Is this always true?

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