That Ashley Madison Hacking and How It’s Making Us All So Smug

by Coleen Singer at Sssh.com Porn For Women and Couples

So the website Ashley Madison got hacked - not new news by now, but the hackers have released the details of 31 million users and some of them happen to be celebrities who preach religious dogma (Hello Josh Duggar, I’m looking at you!).

So now we find a bunch of really smug, judgy people talking about how these ‘lying, cheats’ had it coming. It’s nice to feel like the universe has your back eh? 

Well stop. 

I’m not one to condone cheating. I don’t like cheating on someone nor do I like being cheated on. But here’s the thing. We don’t know anything about these people, and we know even less about their relationships. Because it’s none of our damn business. 

Sure maybe some of the people there were trying to get some side action. Maybe some were in open relationships. Maybe whatever. I don’t even want to speculate, because it ain’t anybody’s business but their own.

The thing that worries me the most is that there are hackers out there who feel that it is ok to pass judgement over someone else’s actions. That is dangerous territory. When a group of people feel it’s ok to pass judgement and punishment over someone else’s action that makes them uncomfortable, it’s a slippery slope.

Again to clarify, I don’t condone or support cheating. But I have to respect someone else’s choice to do so. Or to participate in a website like Ashley Madison, because I don’t know the circumstances that made this person join the website. Even if I did, it’s still none of my business. Yeah, it does seem like sweet, sweet revenge. I’m not saying there isn’t a glint in my eye when I hear that Josh Duggar was caught on that site. Because, WTF right? He talks a lot of religious game, and yet… look at him now.

But I am totally not in support of the hack. There have been so many hacks lately. All these people being judge and punisher of whomever / whatever they don’t support. It’s scary because this means we’re under the mercy of whichever hacker doesn’t agree with our life choices. Whether it is to post naked photos of ourselves, send cheeky messages, or in this case, sign up for a site that endorses cheating on your partner. 

As much as I gleefully think, “Gotcha!” I also think, that isn’t right. As more and more of our lives are now online, I get an uncomfortable feeling that it might all go to shit because somebody out there might not like it because it doesn’t sit well with them. And that isn’t cool and kind of cancels out the actual ‘cheating’ that Ashley Madison stood for. What are we to do?

Coleen Singer is a writer, photographer, film editor and all-around geeky gal at Sssh.com, where she often waxes eloquent about sex, porn, sex toys, censorship, the literary and pandering evils of Fifty Shades of Grey and other topics not likely to be found on the Pulitzer Prize shortlist. She is also the editor and curator of EroticScribes.com and a film producer at BDSM site, Wasteland.com. When she is not doing all of the above, Singer is an amateur stock-car racer and enjoys modifying vintage 1970s cars for the racetrack. Oh, she also likes porn.

 
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