Porn stars are packaged and presented as do-it-all libertines. Your wife or your girlfriend might have a problem with playing with other women or wrapping her head around a little girl/girl/boy action. If only she was more like (insert name of porn star here — or if you don't have one, feel free to insert my name here).
After all, you think, if she liked women, well, you and your significant other would have so much to talk about! I bet porn stars just sit around the craft table and talk about boobs and vaginas all day, the way we talk about "The Office" around the water cooler!
You might think that, and if you want to continue thinking that, you should stop reading now.
Seriously, stop now.
Made it this far? Good. Here's the awful truth about girl/girl scenes for some of the performers in the business — they really don't like it.
That's right, they're as skittish about sex with another woman as your girlfriend or wife is. You know how your girlfriend makes a face anytime you're watching porn, and there's an extreme close-up of a pussy? Those girls want to make that face, but instead they fake it, and make it look like it's the hottest thing they've ever seen.
By now your scratching your head and wondering why a woman who isn't down with the vagina would do it in the first place. Simple — money. It's not like you have a passion for data entry, or personal assisting or assembling iPhones. It's something to do to pay the rent.
That's not to say there aren't porn stars who love shooting with other women. I do, and I can name at least another 10 women in the business off the top of my head. But there is a sizable number of girls who do it just for the money. There's so many that we have a name for them — gay for pay.
I'm not saying I don't understand why someone needs money. But sexuality is a tricky thing. Our likes, fetishes and kinks run so deep that I believe that most people don't even know the whole story of why they like what they like.
Now, I like girls. I enjoy shooting with girls as much as I like shooting with men. But if I wasn't into one or the other, I just wouldn't shoot with them. I suppose some girls can just do it for the money, but I'm not one of them. I also think that if you're not comfortable with something in this business, it'll show. To be good at any job, you have to like what you're doing and from my own experience, porn is not an exception.
Stories abound of women in this business who didn't do girl/girl but who then claim that meeting another performer, usually one who only does lesbian scenes, "turned her gay." I usually take those stories with a grain of salt, as I don't think someone wakes up and decide to lick a pussy when previously they were averse to it.
On the flip side, there's women who are straight for pay. There's not many of them, but there are performers who get into this business and carry on pretty much exclusively with other ladies until the camera's on. If you ask them why, they'll usually growl, "Like I need another dick in my life."
So the next time your girlfriend nixes that idea of her and her hot co-worker getting together, remember there's a chance that your favorite porn star may also not be too much into the pussy — or the cock, for that matter.
This post is a part of Fleshbot's Bobbi Starr Week. Above: Bobbi with the actually-into-ladies-for-real Kimberly Kane, courtesy of BobbiStarr.com.