Ask Camille: How To Get A Blowjob From My Girlfriend… Or You?

Please tell me how to convince my girlfriend to give me a blowjob because she thinks that it's nasty but I really want her to give me a blowjob... I really want a blowjob... And Camille, please tell me how to contact you. I wanna meet you and want a blowjob from you.

Okay, so there are two issues here, both of which are worthy of consideration, but I'll start with the first question...

Convincing someone to do something is a tricky concept. You can't be forceful or pleading because it blurs lines and makes it feel like she doesn't really have a say in the matter. Of course she has a say in the matter. The best thing to do is to ask honestly why giving a blowjob grosses her out.

A lot of people do have a block about it, because they assume there are germs or that it will taste bad. Tell her that you'd be happy to shower right beforehand, focusing lots of attention on cleaning your cock and balls. That's really not a big deal to you, and it could make a world of difference to her.

Another thing she could be concerned about is gagging. The best thing you can do is to encourage her to try, assuring that you will let her take the lead. If she's worried you might thrust into her throat, grab her head or make it so that it's hard for her to control what she's doing, she won't be able to feel confident. Especially for beginners, it's not about a deep and fast blowjob... It's just about her feeling comfortable with the experience.

She could also be worried about what you're planning on doing with your cum. A lot of women have an aversion to cum and you really need to talk that out. If you want a blowjob to completion, you need to have an exit strategy. Even if, for now, she just wants you to come on yourself at the end, roll with it. In time, she may become more adept at taking cum elsewhere, but pace yourselves and check your expectations.

It is important to make it clear that, with proper hygiene and respect of her boundaries, there's nothing gross about blowjobs more than there is about any other kind of sex. It's something that can feel great. This is also a good time to offer to reciprocate for her or to ask what kind of pleasure she would like to feel. Starting up that conversation is a great way to foster general openness in your sexuality.

On to the second question... First off, sorry, but I only give blowjobs to my boyfriend.

The larger concern is that you'd ask in one breath how to get a blowjob from your girlfriend and then how to get a blowjob from someone else. Unless you are in an open relationship that you've mutually agreed upon (and in that case, please disregard, but you didn't mention it upfront) you should not be doing that. You can't treat someone poorly and expect them to expand their sexual horizons to better please you.

In order to have a flourishing sex life, you need to treat her nicely. Make her feel desired and beautiful and special. Show that her pleasure is important to you. But first and foremost, respect her.

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Camille Crimson is not a doctor. This column is for informational and entertainment purposes only. For more advice, head over to the Ask Camille archive.