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Who knew when Mr. Rogers said "I like you just the way you are!" that he was performing early intervention against penile insecurity? Not to cast our dearly departed besweatered hildhood mentor in any kind of unsavory light, but he must have known such sagely wisdom would be vitally important down the line. Today's young folks are destined to become tomorrow's sex advice seekers, so best start early in talking them down from the ledge. Unfortunately, Fred's best intentions seem to have been lost on these folks. (And to the dude with the shrinking penis: um, yikes? Why don't you try cutting soy out of your diet and stay indoors away from us healthy folks just in case that sort of thing's contagious?)

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MaximOnline, Easy Sex:

So my girlfriend and I have been going out for two years now, and we have a great sex life. But one time she wanted to try deep-throating. It felt great, but then she barfed all over my penis. It was gross. Is there a way my girlfriend can learn how to deep-throat?

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The Stranger, Savage Love:

I don't normally run questions from guys complaining about their big dicks. It's not that a big dick can't be problematic. It's just that any time I run a letter like yours, AWOL, guys with tiny dicks start CC'ing me on their suicide notes. It's depressing.

But I'm making an exception for you, AWOL, because running your letter gives me one last chance to implore the people of Pennsylvania to get out there and vote Rick Santorum out of office on Tuesday, November 7. The eyes of the nation are upon you, Pennsylvania! Don't let us down! Wipe Santorum off the floor of the Senate!

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NetDoctor.co.uk, Men's Health:

I am an 18-year-old man and I slept with my girlfriend for the first time two weeks ago. Unfortunately, the string which keeps the foreskin in place on my penis tore about two thirds of an inch down.

It seems to have healed now but the ends haven't grown together. What should I do? Will the ends ever grow together? Will I be able to sleep with my girlfriend again, without risking that it tears any further?

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NetDoctor.co.uk, Men's Health:

The problem that I have is that the tip of my foreskin has shrunk and is quite tight and gone all white.

I can't pull back the foreskin like I used to be able to. It has stopped me from having sex and I haven't gone to the doctor because it's quite embarrassing.

I hope that you could suggest a cream that I can use or something else.

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Sex-project.com, Sex Questions:

I just recently been introduced to my new boyfriends penis, and he's uncircumsized.

Personally, I love uncircumsized men.

...but I noticed that his foreskin wont go all the way down over his head. I know this is supposed to happen, but i seriously dont think he has any idea. I want to bring it up to him so we can start "stretching" it down so it's more... eh... normal, but i really dont know how to bring this up without seeming like there's something seriously wrong with him.

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Masturbation Forum, Male Masturbation:

About 1 year ago my **** size was about 7.5 inches long fully erected and now it is 6 inches long fully erected.

I know i did it with it fully erected and i used the same ruler at both of the times.

Is this normal or am i just really unlucky?

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Men's Health, Ask Dr Tanya Robinson.:

What do women carry in those huge handbags? And how is it that they sometimes go out with just a tiny little bag and survive?

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AltSexColumn.com, Dear Andrea:

As long as I can remember, I've had a fascination with gyno play and playing doctor. I had never acted upon it until meeting my current boyfriend. We've begun experimenting with speculums, various insertible objects, vibrators, etc. We are always very careful to be sterile and safe.

I've grown more and more interested in the idea of cervical dilation/cervical insertions, but have been unable to find any literature on the subject. Apparently I am the only human alive with such a fascination. I have looked online and found several varieties of uterine sounds, but always in context of urethral play, not cervical stretching. I understand that any cervical penetration has the possibility of causing cramps and/or other pain, but I am anxious and willing to experiment with this aspect of such play. My concern is safety. Any information?

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Time Out NY, Get Naked:

I'm what you'd call your typical "nice guy." I usually date nice girls--partially because I don't have the balls to woo and seduce the sex kittens for whom I ache. I have sex like a nice guy--slowly, lovingly--and sometimes it even lasts more than five minutes. So here's my problem: Based on what must be my sterling personality, my flashy intellect and my sense of humor, I have landed myself one of these previously unattainable sex kittens. Part of me thinks she's one "Mandy" short of a Barry Manilow's Greatest Hits album, but she seems into me. We have good times together, and she makes eyes at me that scream "take me now." Being the "nice guy," I carefully began the process of possibly getting ready to perhaps, once the mood is right, have, maybe, sex. So, in the midst of my inept seduction, she blurts out, "Can't you be more rough, throw me around, pull my hair?" Bottom line: She wants to be roughed up a little (well, a lot) and I'm finding this very hard because I have a serious problem with staying power, but also because I'd need a personality overhaul to pull this off. Any suggestions on how to tap into my inner caveman and last long enough to be the philistine of my hottie's (wet) dreams?

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Topix.net, Sex Forums:

I have spoken to several men, some of who have gotten asian women just arrived from China. I ask them, why have someone who barely speaks a word of english, can't get a well-paying job, etc?

They tell me, first of all, that they are often 10-20 years younger and OK with that. Downside is that some of them want to start families - well a guy 45 is nearly done raising his kids, why does he want to start again? Does he get a vasectomy and pretend to want kids?

But I digress. The other main thing they tell me is that these women have some of the old traditions - the women are more wiing to do all the houseohold chores and not complain, be a bit more submissive to the man, more wiling to have sex as often as the guy wants, and the way he wants (I hear they are taught this attitude by their mothers).

Does this make them better sex partners and better mariage partners?

Is there a difference betwen those raised in the west? Probably.

What about differnece between Taiwan, China, Vietnam, Singapore, or Phillinpines? Which ones make the best partners of all?

What about black women? Do they have different attitudes? I personally' find them stuck up - they seem to perfer other black men over white.

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Sexuall.org, Sexuality Forum:

My boyfriend and I have been having anal sex for about a year now. He REALLY loves it and I like it too. But the last time we had anal, the little ball of muscle/tissue that sits just inside your sphincter - basically the one that pushes out waste - was kind of swollen and was sitting outside of my sphincter so that it could be seen and touched. Normally, as I say, this muscle is retracted up just inside the anus. It stayed that way for a week and is only now starting to disappear completely, but as it would make slow progress over the week it would swell up again if I used the bathroom over the week (bowel movements only). Thinking about the problem, I realized this has almost always happened during anal but it used to retract within a few hours, and then slowly got longer to a day or two...

I just would like to know what I can do to prevent this, as he REALLY loves anal and I don't want to have that taken away from our sex life.

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AllSexAdvice.com, Anal Avenue:

My wife and I have been happily married for seven years and have a baby girl. Our relationship is fantastic, because she is the love of my life, but she's also my best buddy. Because of this, we are able to be very open and trusting with one another about pretty much everything.
My wife is bisexual. She has my permission to engage in sexual activity with another woman if she feels the urge. It's one thing that I absolutely cannot offer her, and I feel that she should be allowed to look for it elswhere.
On the other hand, I love anal sex (giving and receiving) with women. My wife does not. She has graciously given me permission to find an "anal sex buddy."
This is my problem. She has a friend who is also bisexual and the two of them have been able to get together on several occasions. I, however, have no clue how to go about approaching someone about this. I am not comfortable putting up a personal ad. I'd much rather it be with someone I know and trust (someone my wife knows and trusts as well). I absolutely do not want to do this without complete disclosure to her. I want her and my potential anal partner to both be at ease with the arrangement.

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NewManMagazine.com, Passion & Purity:

I am frequently asked this question at conferences. First, you have to consider where the desire started. If you engaged in oral sex or any type of sex acts prior to marriage, then those sexual acts were sin. This is why God doesn't want us fooling around before marriage. You may have tasted sexual fruit from another garden that is currently not in your marital garden, and now you are frustrated.

If you masturbated to oral sex fantasies or pornography in your past, that would be sin as well. You have reinforced an oral sex desire with chemicals that are released in your brain at the point of sexual climax. That's why 1 Corinthians 6:18 states that we sin against our bodies when we sin sexually.

So, if this is the genesis of your desire for oral sex, then your frustration is a result of your sin, not your wife's reluctance. She is NOT obligated to fulfill sexual desires that evolved from a sinful past.

AskHeartBeat.com, Dear Ms. Heartbeat:

Your girlfriend is not only a slutzilla, she is a liar. This guy didn't force her to do anything, she willingly complied. She didn't resist crap! She wanted to kiss him, she wanted to feel him up, she wanted him to feel her up and that is why she allowed him into her room. And I seriously doubt that all he did was feel her tits for two hours.

She is telling you this story for a reason... I think it's so that you will have some sense of dignity and pride and break it off. She doesn't want to do it so she is telling you the things that would make a normal guy launch her skank ass into deep space.

AskHeartBeat.com, Dear Ms. Heartbeat:

I would not date you either. You have control issues and you sound like a jealous stalker.

The man is telling you what HE wants and what HE feels, and you want to KEEP ARGUING WITH HIM. He cannot stand all that you drama which is why he found himself a woman that offers him a calmness he did not get with you! Don't you know men love PEACE? They love TRANQUILITY. They love QUIET. They HATE DRAMATIC YELLING COMPLAINING ASS WOMEN!!!

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