Don’t Knock It ’til You Try It: In Defense of the P-spot

When you start Googling, "Straight men stimulating the prostate," you are inundated with thousands of "Am I gay?!?!" queries on Yahoo answers. To me, this is laughable. I really, truly, laugh. Not because I have no empathy for dudes, who have been pretty shamed about this sexual act, but because when you think about it, it's a ridiculous question.

Let me explain. Your prostate is a tiny gland that produces the liquid that carries out your semen. You need it come. Your prostate is right there, lending you a helping hand, when you're shooting cum all over a girl's ass or face or tits. It's a vital, masculine gland, and it has TONS of nerve endings. When you rub it the right way, you're going to have an orgasm. In fact, many men refer to this hyper-sensitive gland as the P-spot. 

So think of it this way: You're stimulating your prostate. Much like women want to stimulate their G-spots in addition to their clits, dudes like having their prostate stimulated in addition to their head and shaft. So why do so many straight men shy away from this inherently pleasurable act? They think it makes them gay, or might make them gay, or indicates that they are gay and just don't know it. Do you hear that? It's misplaced fear whispering in your ear. 

No, none of the above things are true, my friends, because sexual orientation is about the romantic feelings you have toward another individual—not which body part feels good when touched. (There is, of course, absolutely nothing wrong with being gay, but if you don't have a crush on your male coworker, it's nothing to be concerned about.) Spoiler alert: The Straightest of the Manly Straight Men will feel warm and happy things when their lady friend puts a well-placed finger in their butts.

Alright. Moving on. If you're a straight dude that has never experienced prostate stimulation before and doesn't know how to get started, I've got a few beginner tricks up my sleeve. Don't worry—you don't need to ask your GF to peg you or anything like that. It's best to start small and work up.

Level 1: Start with the taint

YES, the taint. That space of skin between your cock and your asshole. It's ultra sensitive, so it doesn't like really warm or really cold things or really rapid movements (right away, at least). If you ask your GF to very lightly touch it during oral or regular sex, it will feel excellent. I may not have a dick, but I do have a hand, and I have been said GF in this situation. 

Level 2: Use a finger

Your or your lady friend/GF/wife can lube up a finger (this is VERY important—unlike other holes, anuses don't self-lubricate) and insert just the tip. When you're more comfortable, insert your finger higher and begin searching for the prostate. It's against the wall of your anus toward your cock, and making gentle, circular motions against this area will help you locate it. 

Level 3: Try a prostate massager

Prostate massagers are pretty nifty. You have total control over size and speed of the motions, and you get to try them out all by yourself. They go just a wee bit up your bum, and are super easy to remove. Get comfortable with your new toy, then throw on some porn. You'll be delighted to find that you're still responsive to the straight vids you're already watching. I said this once, but I'll reiterate: The joy you feel when your P-spot is stimulated has nothing to do with your sexuality.

And as a straight woman, I can assure you: It is really hot to watch you do this. You know, when you're ready. 

4. Combine them 

The best way to experience P-spot stimulation? While doing it the old fashioned way. From what I've heard, this kind of male orgasm is much more similar to the full-body women experience. If butt play is something that makes you feel vulnerable, you can try this out initially during a blow job. 

A few extra notes: Feces come out of your butt, and feces carry all kinds of bacteria that your significant other should not ingest. (Or get in their eyes.We've all seen Knocked Up.) Take a shower and scrub that thang before you get busy, and you should be good to go!

And if nothing else? It's super useful when it comes to understanding what your woman feels when you penetrate her with fingers, toys, dildos, dick, random objects, fists, etc. There are a few things you just can't know if no one and nothing is ever inside you. Such as: 

• Lube is the best. The best ever. Always use lube, even if you're like, "But baby, you're so ready for me." She is ready for you. But she'll be even more ready with lube. 
• Rapidly pounding your fingers into a hole doesn't feel good. Ever. You need finesse.
• Long fingernails = no. 

If you still don't believe how good this stimulating your prostate feels, read this Reddit post. But remember: You're not gay. Just anatomically correct. It's unfortunate his GF won't join him in these acts, because they would have a pretty damn explosive sex life, and he would be far less perplexed.