Fleshbot: Advice

Savanna On Sex

auryn — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 15:30:01 EDT

Seeing as Savanna Samson can do nearly everything — she's a porn goddess, vintner, singer and writer — we'd suggest you take her advice on, well, anything. In her column on xcritic.com, she offers pretty sound (and sexy) sex advice.

So sex advice is sex advice and most of it is pretty sensible and formulaic, but we had to laugh when Savanna (jokingly) suggested that "lots of opiates" are what it will take to convince your wife to join in an orgy with you. Or that the solution to your girlfriend's annoyance with how long it takes for you to come (oh, boo hoo) is to "have her stick her finger up your ass! Kisses!" She also gives a lesson in how to deep throat and explains why women love to take it in the ass. Seriously, this advice column is gold.

· Savanna on Sex (xcritic.com)

How To Get Into Porn (For Real)

Lux Alptraum — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 17:30:01 EDT

In these tough economic times, some women find themselves considering the possibility of looking for work in the adult industry. But how, exactly, does one go from being a cubicle worker to being a full-on pornstar? Monica Foster has the answer.

GettingIntoPorn.com is a very, very thorough (and free!) database of information, resources, and advice for women considering careers in the adult industry. Covering everything from picking a porn name to finding an agent to packing for a shoot to staying healthy, Monica offers wouldbe pornstars an excellent base from which to begin their careers...or to decide that the adult industry just isn't for them.

· Getting Into Porn (gettingintoporn.com)
· Monica Foster (monicaf.com)

"Female Porn Executive" Joy King Wants You To "Get Into Porn"

Lux Alptraum — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 15:30:01 EST

Recession got you down? Is your laid off lifestyle preventing you from getting the lovin' you want and need? Well, Joy King has got the solution to all your problems: just get into porn!

The adult industry veteran (and the power behind Jenna Jameson's throne) "hopes to bring hope and salvation to the countries growing unemployed and laid-off workers"—all for the low, low price of just $69.69. And that's not just for the book: you'll also get four bonus gifts, including "top secret email" and "private tele-course"!

How could you possibly refuse this once in a lifetime offer?

· Get Into Porn (getintoporn.com)

The World's Sexiest Women Recommend Valentine's Day Gifts

Lux Alptraum — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 17:30:01 EST

Still struggling to figure out what to get your girlfriend for Valentine's Day? Why not ask one of the world's sexiest women—like Jesse Jane, Dirty Martini, or even your very own editrix? (asylum.com, thumbnail)

Stormy Daniels Offer Tips On Talking To Pornstars

Lux Alptraum — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 17:30:01 EST

Your chances of meeting a pornstar may be pretty slim—but if you do get to meet one, Stormy Daniels has come up with a list of 10 things you should never, ever say.

Most of them should be obvious to anyone with half a brain, but if you're worried that—in all the excitement of meeting your favorite star—you might forget your manners, we encourage you to print out the list and carry it in your wallet. We'd also advise you to add an 11th item: should you run into Sasha Grey, under no circumstances should the words "crossover star" exit your lips.

· 10 Things You Should Never Say to a Porn Star (asylum.com)
· Thumbnail via KellyFind (kellyfind.com)

You Asked, Stoya Answered

Lux Alptraum — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 13:00:00 EST

Last week we invited you to ask Digital Playground contract star (and newly elected Fleshbot Supreme Commandress) Stoya whatever questions sprung to mind: this week, Stoya is back with her answers. Whether it's how she feels about her trademark (TM), what sex toys she enjoys, or advice on how to fix your relationships, Stoya has all the answers.

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Hey Stoya,

Love your work! I find you simply amazing. I normally enjoy larger breasted females but there is something about you that just turns me on! Maybe it is how you get into the scene or maybe it is your nice ass, perky tits, and sexy moan. But to get to my question. Do you have any fetishes that you don't get to do on screen? I am enjoy peeing. Girls giving golden showers or just girls peeing. I know that isn't really DP's thing but wondered if you would ever do a scene with that or if you are totally against that. Secondly, do you feel special since your "name" is trademarked?

Personally, I define 'fetish' as something that is necessary for either arousal or the completion of the sexual act. That said, I have no fetishes but am quite into a number of acts usually categorized as fetish. Mostly I enjoy new things and making the experience enjoyable for the partner(s) so if they're into it I almost always enjoy participating. In my personal life the line is drawn at poo and living things that can't or don't consent. I'm not against pee, but I am against going to jail for violation of obscenity laws, and since Digital Playground is also going to be running my eventual website, people that want to see me pee are going to have to wait for the United States to relax on the whole obscenity thing. Good luck with that one.

To answer your second question, no. Actually, having my name trademarked makes me feel a little weird, like I'm supposed to be some kind of porn star or something.

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Dear Stoya,

I've got some questions for you.

If any of these questions are too intrusive or you would rather not answer them please ignore them:

Main Question:

At what age did you discover pornography and what was your reaction? Was it a movie, magazine or other? Remember its title?

Consider these:

When did you discover masturbation?

How often do you masturbate?

Do you masturbate to pornography?

Have you masturbated to your own sex scenes?

What's your favorite sex toy or do you prefer your hand?

At what age did you lose your virginity?

Have you ever been with a transsexual and would you consider performing with one in the future?

What's the kinkiest or wildest sex act you've ever done?

On the Kinsey sexual orientation scale where would you classify yourself? 0 - 6 (0=Hetero 3=Bi 6=Homo).

How do you feel about labels such as: gay, straight, and bi?

When did you decide to get into the adult business and why?

What are the pros and cons of the adult industry?

How would you like the porn industry to change in the coming years?

If you weren't a porn star what would you be or is that thought totally inconceivable?

Do you plan to remain in the industry as a producer or director or will you be exclusive to performing?

Have all your dreams been fulfilled?

What are your feelings on breast implants?

Hottest sex scene you've performed in?

And... you are beautifully hot!

Wow, that sure is a big, long list of questions. I'm not sure if I've ever seen one that huge. Do you mind if I touch it? I'm overwhelmed by the size...

At 7 am on my way to shoot with the lovely angelina armani, I am overstimulated and convinced that everything needs to be a sexual innuendo. You should try it some time. Its a fun game.

What age did I discover pornographic material? It was definitely more than four years ago. Actually, it wasn't a movie or a magazine, it was bdsm and fetish newsgroups on the internet. Obviously I reacted to it quite well :) By the time I signed with DP I had still only seen a handful of adult movies, and the only ones I found interesting enough to sit through were "The Fashionistas" and JackTheZipper's work, which kind of makes sense because they both have a lot of artistic and fetish themes.

What's my favorite sex toy or do I prefer my hand? I prefer other peoples hands... like under a table in public... or in the back of a taxi at night when the driver isn't looking (Here we go with the overstimulated thing again). If there are no hands available, I'm partial to this little egg-ish shaped vibrator from lelo.

Do I intend to remain in the industry as a producer or director or will I remain exclusive to performing?

Jesus, dude. Eight movies and you're already asking what I'm going to do when I retire?

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Hey there...Stoya...

I married a wonderful girl, but she's really shy in bed...and I need a girl who is more bold and exciting...any ideas on how i can drop the hint and help her get more bold?

Wow. There's really no stock answer for this, since each woman is different. Generally, building a healthy dialogue on sex and making your partner feel satisfied and comfortable are going to be good first steps toward a more open sex life. Even something as simple as changing "I need a girl who is more bold and exciting" to "It would be nice if she felt comfortable enough to experiment and express her sexuality with me" would probably get you much better results. There's nothing less sexy than feeling like you aren't exciting, so watch your choice of words when you begin to broach the subject.

*****

For more Stoya, check out the Stoya Archive.

Image courtesy of Digital Playground

So You've Decided To Have An MMF...

Lux Alptraum — Mon, 17 Nov 2008 12:30:00 EST

So you're thinking about having an MMF threeway, and you're just not sure where to turn. You could ask the experts, or you could study at the knee of porn's finest instructors, or you could read the blog of some guy who seems to really like boy-boy-girl threeways (and thoughtfully includes links to MMF porn!). Sure, some of his advice is questionable at best, but he has more than a few entertaining one liners. And, to be honest, we have soft spot for anyone out there who's trying to increase the visibility of male bisexuality (and threeways!) so we're going to let this one slide.

· First Bi Threesome (firstbithreesome.com, via indienudes.com)

The Guide To Getting It On In Your Earth-Friendly Car

Lux Alptraum — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 11:30:37 EST

A compact car may be great for the environment... but it's not so great for your sex life. Assuming, of course, that your sex life revolves around getting it on in your car (and whose doesn't?). Luckily, our friends at TreeHugger have come to the rescue, with their list of sex positions that work well in small cars. Don't own a small car? These positions don't discriminate! (Although your potential partners might, earth killer.) (treehugger.com)

We previously gave out the wrong email address...

Lux Alptraum — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 10:45:00 EST

We previously gave out the wrong email address for our "Ask Stoya" feature. It's not askstoya at gmail dot com, it's askstoya at fleshbot dot com. Our sincerest apologies!

Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Stoya (But Were Afraid To Ask)

Lux Alptraum — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 12:45:00 EST

Last week, the lovely Stoya was crowned co-Supreme Commandress of Fleshbot, joining the incumbent Joanna Angel in the Fleshbot seat of power. As a pornstar—and a member of the Fleshbot community!—Stoya has shown her dedication to her fans, producing hot scene after hot scene and satisfying all our urges for Stoyarrific porn. But as much as we adore her, there's still a lot we don't know about this lovely girl. Luckily, that's about to chance: our benevolent Supreme Commandress has informed us that we're all going to get the chance to ask her anything we want—well, almost anything.

Got a question for Stoya? Simply email it to askstoya at fleshbot dot com. After she's had a chance to give each and every question the proper amount of consideration, we'll be back next week with all her answers. Don't be shy... she's eagerly awaiting all your questions!

UPDATE: We previously listed the address for this feature as askstoya at gmail dot com. That was incorrect, please see the correct email address above.

· Image courtesy of Digital Playground

Ashlynn Brooke Explains It All For You

Lux Alptraum — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 13:45:00 EST

It seems we'll never get tired of "how to get into porn" advice pieces—well, at least not the advice in question comes from Ashlynn Brooke and Shane Diesel (they should know!). Ask Men sits these two down and takes a penetrating look at the many steps of getting into porn. Haha, we said penetrating. (askmen.com; thumbail from "All About Ashlynn 2")

Going (And Coming) Green: Eco-Friendly Sex

Lux Alptraum — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 11:30:00 EDT

Being green isn't just about driving a Prius and eating organic: it's an ecofriendly lifestyle that incorporates all aspects of your life—including your sex life. Planet Green (the earth conscious little sister of the Discovery Channel) has a comprehensive list of ways to screw without screwing over Mother Earth. And it's not all about patchouli and giving up waxing; some of our favorite companies (and activities!) get the green seal of approval. (planetgreen.discovery.com)

Tristan Taormino Does L.A.

DCypher — Mon, 11 Aug 2008 13:30:00 EDT

With a long list of sexy books and even sexier movies exploring everything from oral sex to anal sex to squirting and back again, it’s no surprise that we're such fans of sexy sexpert Tristan Taormino—and now we have a chance to ~~stalk~~ see her in person as she reads from her latest tome on open relationships at Book Soup in West Hollywood this Wednesday. There'll be some quality Q&A time as part of the program, and we’re hoping that she brings plenty of flow charts and illustrations along too. Lots and lots of illustrations. (AVN)

How Do You Organize Your Porn?

Lux Alptraum — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 12:15:46 EDT

We'd like to think that there's no such thing as too much porn. But when you've been collecting it for years, you have to question that assumption. Sure, having room upon room (or hard drive upon hard drive) full of smut seems like the ultimate in decadent living ... but when you feel like rubbing one out in a hurry, you need to be able to quickly separate your dirtpipe milkshakes from your ass smoothies and find exactly what you're looking for as quickly as possible. And sometimes excess comes at the expense of efficiency.

As the digital age has made the piling up of porn all too easy, this is a plight that many of us have come to know all too well. We recently heard from a reader who's swimming in smut and desperate to know what he can do to sort things out ...

I find myself having several gigs of porn on my computer (over 60 gig) and I'm running into an organizational problem. I have been altering the file names with codes to categorize my porn (as in having A for anal, for CP for cream pie) but it's very cumbersome and I have to sort through it manually.

Are there any solutions out there that you know of that organizes porn in a very intuitive way? Do you think any of your reader base would know? If so, please tell me! I would love to hear a possible solution! If not, I plan on looking into writing an application with a sqlite database to easily tag porn and make searches very quick.

Since we're usually too busy looking for porn to actually take the time to organize it, we figured we'd pass his question along to you, our savvy smut-loving readers.

So tell us: how do you organize your porn? Do you have a special system? Is there a program out there that easily and efficiently sorts and separates, keeping the MILFs away from the hot coeds and the messy facials apart from the anal cream pies? Is there a quick and easy solution — or are we all just destined to fight our way through an ever increasing amount of smut, closing our eyes and hoping for the best? Let us know your own personal tips and techniques for navigating your own personal porn archives in the comments.

· Thumbnails via Office Pink and Latin Teen Pass (officepink.com + latinteenpass.com, via Ask Jolene)

These Cosmo sex positions are guaranteed...

Dashiell Bennett — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 10:22:54 EDT

These Cosmo sex positions are guaranteed to improve your sex life—if you can decipher any of the descriptions and figure out how they are actually done. If we're reading these correctly, we might need to starting dating gymnasts in order pull most of these off. (cosmopolitan.com; image via)

Here's a few tips to help you write a good...

Dashiell Bennett — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 13:12:45 EDT

Here's a few tips to help you write a good sex story without once resorting to using the phrases "heaving bosoms" or "rosy flower." If you can work, "sweet pink love mound" into your text, however, that's always a winner. (zobop.blogspot.com)

Best Of Sex Advice: Reach Out And Touch Someone

Dashiell Bennett — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 15:50:59 EDT

We know that it's tough to ask for help. It takes a lot of courage to admit you have a problem, and that you need the assistance of others to resolve it. And it can be embarrassing and painful to confess to a shortcoming, but when you do—when you learn to trust and then rely on your fellow man—that's when you make a true human connection. On the other hand, when you seek sexual guidance by joining a site called the "Large Penis Support Group" ... well, then you're just showing off. (Or being delusional. Take your pick.)

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· Help Me Heather (gurl.com)

For some reason, I find it sexually pleasing to have my bladder pressed on, or to just have a slightly full bladder in general. I have been doing it since I was about eight, and it never seemed weird until I actually thought about it. I have never told anyone—and even lied to cover it up. Recently, I've worried it might be a fetish. Is it a fetish, and if it is, should I do something about it?

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· The Pucker Up Forums (puckerup.com)

I am a little worried about my man slave. I have noticed that he likes to play with his ass on the occasion and i am not sure if he knows that i seen him do it. Does that mean he's gay and if not then how do i approach him on maybe letting me play with his ass in sexual play. maybe he's into it and is affraid to do it because he will think that i will think he is gay. I wouldn't but i want him to be completely sexually satisfied . I would love to play with his ass i hear that is a big hot zone for men and they just don't know it. I want him to be completely unleashed. How can i get my man slave to let me didle with his ass?.

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· Talk Sex With Sue Johanson (talksexwithsue.com)

I have a quick qustion what does pussy really smell like?

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· Female First (femalefirst.co.uk)

I have been with my boyfriend for 15 years and love him to bits wehave a good sex life but for the past 2 years he gas tied me up whilst i am asleep, at first i loved it, but lately ive experienced new things, mainly a straight jacket suit, i am a heavy sleeper so dont notice him slipping me into the jacket. last month i woke up totaly trapped and blind folded.. at first all good but he left me for 34 hours, i lost it and panicked.
i worried that one day he will leave me ied up

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· Jersey Girls (providencedailydose.com)

Once upon a recent drunken night I went home with a former fuck buddy. Ever since, I’ve been getting booty texts/calls from him – but only at 3 am when I’m sleeping! Don’t get me wrong – I’m totally DTF but I’m not sure what to do. Should I text back the next morning? Should I not say anything at all? Ladies, what’s the proper etiquette for a situation like mine?

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· Sex-Project (sex-project.com)

i've read some postings about sucking your own dick and i was able to do this about a year ago
and now i can only get about 2 inches away and i was wondering how long i took some of you to
reach your goal.

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· Large Penis Support Group (lpsg.org)

Would other guys on here let another man masturbate them? This question is more aimed at guys who are not 100% gay. Would a guy who is, say, 100% straight, or there abouts, let another guy wank him if he didn't have to do anything in return?

I've no real experience with other men, but I've often wondered what it would be like to wank another guy.

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· Savage Love (thestranger.com)

A few months before I graduated, a friend revealed that she had been lusting after me, and wanted to hook up. The trouble was that she's in a long-term relationship. She didn't see this as a problem—she was willing to cheat—but I didn't want to be a part of that, and turned her down. She then played some games and got me to kiss her when I was drunk, and later flat-out propositioned me (again while I was drunk), and I refused again. Then we graduated and moved hundreds of miles away from each other, which I expected would be the end of it.

Now, though, a month later, she wrote to tell me that she's "not over" me. Was I right to turn her down, or should I, as she argued, let her make her own mistakes? Should I let her boyfriend (and likely fiancé) know about any of this?

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Previously: Best of Sex Advice Archive

This just in: Having sex on vacation is...

Dashiell Bennett — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 10:30:00 EDT

This just in: Having sex on vacation is way better than doing it in your own home. Um, isn't that why they invented vacations in the first place? (newsweek.com)

A new website is offering tips on passionate...

Dashiell Bennett — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 11:15:40 EDT

A new website is offering tips on passionate lovemaking for couples, but there's one small catch you should be aware of: it's written by Catholic monk who happens to be celibate. So maybe you should get a second opinion before you follow any of his advice, just to be safe. (szansaspotkania.net + metro.co.uk)

How To Solve Your Armpit Fetish Needs (Without Getting Arrested)

Dashiell Bennett — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 13:50:49 EDT

As we mentioned earlier, a poor armpit fetishist in Singapore was caned and sent to prison for 14 years because he wasn't very good at controlling himself where women and their sexy underarms were concerned. Granted, it's not always the easiest kink to indulge in (especially with strangers)—but there are other options out there that are better than molesting helpless passers-by on the street. After all, that's what the interweb is for! Some may find perusing a website like GirlPits or Armpits-Fetish.com to be a less-than-perfect substitute, especially if your Smell-O-Vision browser plugin is on the fritz. But you can probably find a more willing real life partner in the forums willing to lift their elbows for you if you're persistent enough. And if all else fails, you can always hire some professional assistance. Spending a little money sure beats a cane to the backside—although you can probably pay extra for that too.

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· Girlpits Underarm Fetish Forum (girlpits.com; registration required to view galleries

· The world's ArmPit Fetish site (armpits-fetish.com)

· Armpit Sex (armpit-sex.com)

· FEMALE CELEBRITY ARMPITS! (geocities.com)

· "Celebrity Armpits! Check them out ..." (forums.superiorpics.com)

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Previously: Hands Up For Hairy Armpits!

It must be real rough being married to a...

Dashiell Bennett — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 09:56:44 EDT

It must be real rough being married to a sex expert like Em of Em & Lo, what with all the mind-blowing expert sex and everything. Or at least until you screw something up and then she writes a book about it. So apparently there are some risks involved, but it's probably worth that gamble. (glamour.com)

Best Of Sex Advice: How Does This Thing Work Again?

Dashiell Bennett — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 11:30:25 EDT

So what have you been up to lately? Our Best of Sex Advice roundup took the a couple of months off to visit some kind of swinger's resort in the Caribbean and is now being mysteriously quiet about the details. We've been saving up lots of questions in the meantime, however, and now it's finally ready to answer some of them. As usual, they generally revolve around the one pressing theme that seems to be a mainstay of sex advice columnists everywhere: "How do I get hot people to do filthy things to me?" Of course if anyone ever truly answers that question, we'll all be out of a job. But until that day arrives, we'll take whatever advice we can get.

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· Savage Love (thestranger.com)

I'm on a kick-ass coed Ultimate Frisbee team. We are all hot, drink tequila together, go naked hot-tubbing, and reward great plays with lap dances. And each of us is at least 10 percent gay. I want to take the team to the logical next level: an orgy. I brought up the subject at the last team meeting, but everyone thought it was a joke. Can you suggest a way to get a whole team to be GGG?

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· The Pucker Up Forums (puckerup.com)

My wife recorded me using my new dildo on myself last night. Being on the receiving end, I know how great it felt. When we watched it , I was shocked that I took it, like I did. Maybe things look bigger on video, but I couldn't even believe that it was me that was taking a dildo in my ass like that.

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· Talk Sex With Sue Johanson (talksexwithsue.com)

My boyfriend discovered that if he uses a small amount of Cocaine and a bit of water with a .5 cc syringe that he can numb his penis, therefore lasting a great deal longer before ejaculating. When he does reach orgasm he says its the strongest he's ever had and feels like he has way more ejaculate to unload than normal which he says feels great. Is this safe for him to do?

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· In & Out (timeout.com/chicago)

I'm an early-50s man who has recently gotten into urethral play. When I was a kid, I remember putting a small stick in there a few times, and that it felt good, but then one day it got all irritated...Assuming I am going to stick something in my urethra again (and I'm pretty sure I will—I am getting hard just thinking about it now), what's the best way to go about experimenting safely?

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· Stacey Grenrock Woods (esquire.com)

Why is it that when I kiss my lady's nipple, all of a sudden I get garlic breath?

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· Sex-Project (sex-project.com)

Whenever i matstubate and cum, it never really gets out it really a very small amount of cum and also it drips out of my penis... Im straight and sometimes jerk off with my friends together and they all shoot and also shoot alot... :??? Is there something wrong?

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· Ask Rachel and Claire (babeland.com)

How do I know when I have had a orgasm?

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· All Sex Advice (allsexadvice.com)

One of my girls bi friends told her some time ago that the best head she ever got was from another girl, and that no guy could ever do it as well. Something about how only a girl knows exactly what another girl wants. That's not true, is it? At least not ALWAYS true? If a guy and a girl both used the same techniques, they would both be great, right?

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Previously: Best of Sex Advice Archive

Coming out is never easy. And coming out...

Lux Alptraum — Wed, 28 May 2008 12:38:48 EDT

Coming out is never easy. And coming out as a cybersex lover? You can't even direct your parents to PFLAG! If you're in need of guidance through this trying time, cybersexpert Bonnie Ruberg has some advice for the cybersexy. We're not sure we agree with all her cybertips—but hey, she's the cybersexpert. (villagevoice.com)

It's graduation season and where should...

Dashiell Bennett — Wed, 21 May 2008 16:14:05 EDT

It's graduation season and where should our next generation of young leaders and bright minds turn for guidance on their future? Well, since you're reading about it here, you can probably guess where this going. Here's some words of wisdom for the Class of 2008 direct from the ladies of porn. (thenaughtyamerican.com)

Sex Tips From YouPorn: Don't Forget The Balls

Lux Alptraum — Wed, 21 May 2008 10:45:00 EDT

Like many of you, we've gotten the bulk of our sex ed from two places: the internet and porn. Sometimes we even combine the two sources, learning wonderful and amazing things from online smut. For example, this video shows us the importance of proper ball stimulation during the act of oral sex—with more than a few ladies eagerly demonstrating their favorite junk handling techniques. Internet porn ... how did we ever learn anything without it?

· Random Sex Tips #1: BALLS (youporn.com)

How do you put together the perfect mix...

Dashiell Bennett — Tue, 20 May 2008 10:44:50 EDT

How do you put together the perfect mix CD of super funky slow jams guaranteed to set just the right mood for boning? Here's some suggestions, but in a pinch you can always just put Barry White's Greatest Hits on repeat. (neighborbeeblog.com)

Hoping to get your freak on during that...

Lux Alptraum — Fri, 09 May 2008 11:28:05 EDT

Hoping to get your freak on during that time of the month, but just a bit nervous about ... well, all the stuff that's going on down there? Help is on the way: Naked City has a primer for those looking to earn their red wings. First tip? Never use phrases like "earn your red wings." See? We learned something already! (nakedcity.com)

After six steamy seasons, Oxygen's "Talk...

Lux Alptraum — Wed, 07 May 2008 11:00:25 EDT

After six steamy seasons, Oxygen's "Talk Sex with Sue Johanson" is going off the air. Guess we'll have to go back to getting our sex education from the internet like the rest of the kids learn about it. (ap.google.com)

Tracking Down Cougars In The Wild

Dashiell Bennett — Fri, 02 May 2008 12:00:52 EDT

The cougar is generally considered a predatory animal, stalking down unsuspecting prey at hotel bars and fraternity beer pong tournaments. But for those who are actually hoping to get snared in one of their traps, it helps to take a proactive approach. Sites like Urban Cougar have been showing you how to spot these ferocious beasts in their natural habitat fpr a while now, but now that cougar watching has become such a full-fledged industry the hunters have become the hunted. Dating sites unite older ladies with horny young cubs, steamy novels document their safaris, books and websites provide tips for predator and prey, and a growing number of youngish men consider it their duty to hang out at swanky bars and wait for women to buy them drinks. (And then hopefully turn them into kept sex toys. Dare to dream!) One even has the brilliant concept of driving around the country in a bus and filming his adventures in picking up older women. Hey, that sounds like a great idea for a porn site!

· "On the Prowl with the Cougar Hunters" (bostonmagazine.com, via michaelorell.tumblr.com)

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If you're in New York with no weekend plans,...

Lux Alptraum — Fri, 25 Apr 2008 10:30:22 EDT

If you're in New York with no weekend plans, think about hitting up the Bust Spring Fling Craftacular: we hear that an "astrosexologist" from noted ladies talking about the sexy sex site The Frisky will be on hand to dish advice on love and sex. Maybe we can get her to read our... uh, nevermind. (thefrisky.com)

What do you do when your porn pile becomes...

Dashiell Bennett — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 10:44:49 EDT

What do you do when your porn pile becomes too much (or too repetitive) to handle? If you want to reduce it, you better recycle! But how? Here are some tips on how to save your sanity and the planet ... and maybe a few kittens, too. (boinkology.com)

If you're more into femmes than feminism,...

Dashiell Bennett — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 12:25:42 EDT

If you're more into femmes than feminism, maybe you can find a few good porn suggestions here. Believe it or not, lesbians aren't just in porn, they watch it too! (about.com)

Best Of Sex Advice: Unlearn What You Have Learned

Dashiell Bennett — Thu, 27 Mar 2008 15:00:27 EDT

We all have bad habits — whether it's snoring or not picking up your socks or forgetting to wear pants to the opera — but the important thing to remember is that you can change. Do you have trouble staying monogamous? Try a threesome! Do you have foul tasting spunk? Try pineapple juice! Does the sight of vagina make you ill? Try being gay! There's a solution to all your problems, even if you simply made up a problem in order to get your name printed in an advice column. Think you can pick out which of this week's questions are real and which are pure entertainment? If not... hey, there's another skill for you to learn!

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· Get Naked (timeout.com/newyork)

I'm a gay man in my mid-twenties who's been in a relationship for the past year. I'm having some trouble in the bedroom, and it's kind of a two-tiered problem. I began having sex when I was closeted and in college, using the Internet to arrange for random hookups ... I was used to having sex with one guy, then moving on ... So now, while I love my boyfriend dearly, I'm having a hard time becoming aroused in our monogamous sex life. Also, I have a foot fetish, but I'm kind of ashamed about that, too. ... I want to make things better in the bedroom with my boyfriend, but I almost feel like I need to be sexually deprogrammed.

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· Love Bites (eyeweekly.com)

I am 43 and I have never penetrated a woman. I noticed that I was "abnormal" during my "first base" at the age of 28. I actually didn't feel anything but disgust. I thought it was because of the bad taste of the girl's saliva. But further experiences told me that all the female mouths had the same taste. The most terrible experience was the sight of the genitals of a woman when I was 30. I was extremely disappointed by the ugliness of this part of the female body. All in all I had four "sexual" experiences in my life. Each time I just felt disgust and had no arousal at all. Am I asexual?

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· In & Out (timeout.com/chicago)

When we first started dating, I had a lot of personal stuff going on, and sex was low on my list of priorities. As a result, he got the impression that I'm very conservative in that arena. He's sexually adventurous and, undoubtedly, found me very frustrating. Now the tables have turned: My libido has returned in a big way, but he is juggling work and grad school. He's exhausted all the time and rarely wants sex, leaving me frustrated ... he no longer lusts for me. He explains that he's so accustomed to the "prudish" version of me, he now has a mental block and can't see me as sexy anymore. ... How can we overcome the bad bedroom habits we have cultivated?

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· The Pucker Up Forums (puckerup.com)

For the past month or so me and my fiancee have spoken about a third partner possibly for sex and possibly for a relationship. She has told me that she wants to experience me with another girl and me with another guy. like most guys i'm okay with the other girl part, but the other guy part is making me nervous. I fooled around with guys when i was younger but decided that I wanted women instead. So it's not discomfort about sexual identity but rather about trusting another man.
I'm not sure if I can trust another man with my fiancee. But I want to make her happy and whenever she talks about me and another guy double teaming her, she get's really happy (and horny). I've been thinking about this for a few weeks and i'm still nervous.

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· Dear Prudence (slate.com)

I recently had breast-enhancement surgery, and there is a noticeable difference. My question is, How do I respond when people make remarks about it?

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· Dr. Dick's Sex Advice (drdicksexadvice.com)

I have been notice that some of the skin on my dick is starting to wear away from me masturbating...there is no blood or anything like that. Just the skin turning light in color around head of my dick. I think its my grip. Is there a way the color will come back or have i rubbed the skin cells to death.

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· Jersey Girls (providencedailydose.com)

I just started seeing this guy and things are going really well, there's just one problem: his cum tastes horrible. I'm not the squeamish type, and normally wouldn't shy away - but, it really is disgusting. Girls I'm open to anything, any ideas on how to remedy the situation?

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· Savage Love (thestranger.com)

I get too much attention from women. When I was out of shape, women paid attention, but not as much. Now, if I wanted to, I could get all the pussy I wanted. Single pussy, married pussy, all-different-color pussy.
Is it normal for a guy to turn down so much of the pussy that gets pitched at him? I am a tall Asian guy, six foot one, 165 pounds, cut and lean, 32 but look 28. But I like to go after the hard-to-get pussy. The easy pussy that gets thrown at me, I'm not interested in. What's wrong with me?

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· These Tropical-Colored Braces Are Going To Get You So Much Ass (theonion.com)

That is why, based on my 25 years of orthodontic experience, I can confidently say that the aqua-blue, green, and purple ligatures I have just applied to your teeth are going to put you eyeball-deep in tail before you know it.
Trust me, nothing, and I mean nothing, gets girls wetter than a guy sporting a mouthful of tropical-colored braces.

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How To: Lead A Sexy Double Life

Dashiell Bennett — Fri, 14 Mar 2008 15:59:15 EDT

Everyone has certain habits or interests they generally like to keep private, like banging hookers in expensive hotel rooms. But suppose you also have an important high-profile job, like—and we're just throwing this out there as a possible example—governor of a large Eastern state? If other people found out about what you were doing, it might cause problems for you at work. So does that mean you have to choose between your job and your extracurricular interests? Of course not! Leading secret double lives is an American tradition, and Time Out New York's latest unbelievably coincidental issue talks to people about their hidden worlds — including the lawyer/go-go dancer, the loving father/group sex enthusiast (who you may be familiar with) and the husband who can't seem to say no to a good happy ending. (Can anyone?) They even offer tips on how to keep your secret shame a secret. If only this had hit the newsstands just a few days earlier who knows who it might have helped?

· "How to: Lead a secret life" (timeout.com)
· Thumbnail via doctoradventure.info

Best Of Sex Advice: Vagina Things You Need To Know

Dashiell Bennett — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 17:46:47 EST

The problem with sex is that there are boy parts and girl parts, and sometimes it's hard for boys to make the girl parts happy (and vice versa) since boys only know how to make their own boy parts happy. Of course, sometimes he wants to make another boy's parts happy (or a girl with another girl's parts) and they still seem to have trouble with that too. And now that we think about it, there are tons of boys and girls who don't even know how their own parts work and couldn't possibly be expected to make anybody's else parts happy too. What's the moral of this story and this week's sex advice questions? Everyone needs to learn how a vagina works ASAP. That's the only way us boys and girls are ever going to get out of this mess alive.

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· In & Out (timeout.com/chicago)

I am a 35-year-old gay man and I am about to have sex with a woman for the first time ... I know that vaginas are not scary, and yet they are still foreign to me. With an anus, I can be rough. How gentle or rough should I be with her vagina? We will probably have to do it more than once. How much is too much? Are there any other vagina things I should know about before going in for the first time?

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· Dr. Thomas Stuttaford and Suzi Godson (timesonline.co.uk)

I've always had an active sex life with my husband of 19 years. But he has now acquired an artificial vagina. Does this mean he is losing interest in me?

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· Love Bites (eyeweekly.com)

I've been seeing my girlfriend for a few months and recently she asked if I'd be interested in some anal play — my receiving it from her. ... But shortly afterwards, she started making little comments ("jokes" she calls them) here and there that she's turned me gay, etc. I laughed it off at first but she just keeps on going on about it, even starting to making some suggestive remarks about it in front of our friends. As a result, I got really annoyed with her and told her off. She then started calling me homophobic and said that she didn't think I was "that kind of guy." The whole thing has really upset me because I don't think that's fair at all. Are my actions that wrong?

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· Miss Information (nerve.com)

I stumbled across a compromising video of my ex on an amateur porn site. I was shocked when I saw the video. She wasn't that sexually open-minded when I was with her! Obviously, part of my reaction was jealousy.
I have two questions: 1) How do I get over this?, and 2) Is there an obligation to anonymously or non-anonymously contact her in case she doesn't know that video is out there?

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· Dr. Dick's Sex Advice (drdicksexadvice.com)

I have been having a ton of rough sex with my boyfriend and the last time we did it he complained that I ripped something up there and that it burns whenever I try to slide in. He also says it burns sometime when he does #2 and he finds blood also! What can we do to get him better and prevent this from happing again?

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· Dear Deidre (thesun.co.uk)

My aunt picks me up in her car and we go to hotels to have sex - and it's always absolutely brilliant.

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· Get Naked (timeout.com/newyork)

I'm a 29-year-old hetero female, and for as long as I can remember I've had the urge to get double-teamed by two guys. I'm finally in a relationship with a man who's not threatened by the idea and we've even agreed on who the third guy should be. ... The one thing is, my boyfriend tells me that although the guy is pretty well-hung (which is good) he's also uncut ... I really am not into the idea of giving head to an uncut penis.... So should I just go through with it and hope the second time's the charm where uncut penises are concerned, or should I call the whole thing off?

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· Savage Love (thestranger.com)

After 16 years and one kid, my husband and I are considering an open marriage. ... about a year ago, I met someone who turned from a friendship into a strong attraction ... I decided to ask for a divorce before entering into an affair, and about five months ago my husband and I separated. I have been seeing the other man during this time and the sex has been amazing—he's doing the things that I begged my husband to do with me. My husband has been miserable without me and has agreed to an open marriage so we can still be together, be a family, and I can be free to have an outside relationship. My husband is also free to have an outside relationship. He now accepts that I've been with another man (whom he has met) and that I am capable of loving him as a husband while having a sexual relationship on the side. ... all I want to know is if this is a recipe for disaster?

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Previously: Best of Sex Advice Archive

Two-Fisted Education From Hand Job Advice

Dashiell Bennett — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 12:18:10 EST

The hand job may be among the most underrated ways to get off—not as hot as a blow job, but a lot more work than masturbating. But perhaps it's also just the most misunderstood? After all, no one really knows how someone else's junk works — even if you happen to have your own junk yourself — and that can lead to a lot of awkward and potentially painful moments. The aptly named Hand Job Advice graciously decided to help by offering several techniques that might come in ... uh, handy; even better, they all come with video demonstrations so you can see what the hell the scary headless lady is talking about. Heck, even solo flyers might learn some new tricks. So if you're a little unsure about your manual labor skills, give it a shot. Who knows? With a little practice your man might even decide that he prefers some mano-a-cock action. We guess stranger things have happened.

· Hand Job Advice: Learn to Give a Fantastic Hand Job (handjobadvice.com)

Best Of Sex Advice: We're Listening

Dashiell Bennett — Thu, 28 Feb 2008 16:32:15 EST

In case you were keeping track, we did miss our Best of Sex Advice roundup for the last couple of weeks — but not because of laziness or forgetfulness or even neglect. Frankly, your problems just weren't that interesting! Maybe everyone was just feeling cocky in their post-Valentine's Day bliss, or maybe—heaven forbid!—you're actually starting to figure this stuff out on your own. That would be a sad blow to our nation's underworked and underpaid advice columnists. And bloggers who desperately need silly things to make fun of. Won't you please think of them (and us) the next time you're worried that your lover/parents/teachers will find out about your kinky fetish, or worse ... that your kinky fetish isn't freaky enough to talk about in a major national newspaper? Nonsense! No matter how sexually enlightened some of you may be, we'll still be sitting here waiting to read all about those of you who aren't.

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· Dr. Thomas Stuttaford and Suzi Godson (timesonline.co.uk)

My new girlfriend has disconcerting sexual practices such as rubbing her clitoris during sex and not allowing me to caress her breasts. Is it me or her?

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· Dr. Dick's Sex Advice (drdicksexadvice.com)

I think I have a spanking fetish. I say I think I do, because I never tried it. But I want to. I think my partner would be up for it, but I have yet to ask her. I thought I'd ask you first. What are your thoughts about spanking?

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· Savage Love (thestranger.com)

My question is on Dom/sub slave etiquette. Assuming things with this new woman work out, at what point should I break up with my sub? Should I tell her about the other woman? Should I tell her in advance we are ending ("Your next visit will be our last") or should I just ask her to come over and break up then ("We both knew this was only going to last so long")? Do I help her find a new Dom? This isn't a regular breakup, so I'm not really sure how to do it. My sub loves to serve, so would it be cheating on my next girlfriend if I let her keep doing domestic tasks for me, but nothing sexual? Should I tell my next girlfriend that I had a sex slave for a while?

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· Jersey Girls (providencedailydose.com)

How do you talk dirty? What do you as women like to hear that gets you all hot and bothered?

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· Open Up: The Pucker Up Forums (puckerup.com)

I've seen reports from guys who have gotten full ejaculatory orgasms from anal sex, without any oral or manual stimulation of the penis ... I've come pretty close, even getting a very milky pre-cum, but didn't quite make it to the Big O ... Any comments or advice?

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· Stacey Grenrock Woods (esquire.com)

I get these really nasty headaches every time I ejaculate. It doesn't matter if I'm having sex or just masturbating. Please help me.

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· Get Naked (timeout.com/newyork)

Can someone please tell me what's so hot about having sex in the shower? ... it's actually a big pain in the ass, with little payoff.

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· Miss Information (nerve.com)

My boyfriend of six months insists on wearing [condoms.] I was under the impression that once we were exclusive and both got tested, we wouldn't use them anymore. I've been tested, but he somehow 'hasn't gotten around to it.' ... Is he just lazy or what? I just want to make sure I'm not missing the obvious.

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· Love Bites (eyeweekly.com)

I am a 22-year-old gay man. The other day, while reading the labelling on a condom, I read the words for "vaginal use only." Being gay, I researched this only to find on the Canada Health website that condoms are only subject to inspection if a complaint is made. I couldn't find anything about if they should be tested for anal sex.

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While succinct enough, this three step guide...

Jonnobot — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 15:21:09 EST

While succinct enough, this three step guide to publishing your own sex tape online from our eminent colleagues at Valleywag can really be reduced to two words: Gene Simmons. As long as you follow that as a negative example, we promise you can't go wrong. (valleywag.com)

Eye Weekly—the alternative Toronto...

Dashiell Bennett — Fri, 08 Feb 2008 13:46:35 EST

Eye Weekly—the alternative Toronto paper frequently featured in our Best of Sex Advice roundups—has put out their special Love & Sex Guide for 2008, which includes porn and gift guides, dating tips, and this charming article in defense of dry humping. The classics never go out of style! (eyeweekly.com - thanks Sanj)

Best Of Sex Advice: You're On Your Own

Dashiell Bennett — Thu, 07 Feb 2008 17:15:26 EST

Seeing all the people who turn to advice columnists for help with their freaky problems, and reading about the various crazy scenarios that threaten to bring down every relationship imaginable, it's any wonder that anybody wants to date another person ever. Never mind trying to find someone who would return the favor. Sometimes it seems the only alternative is to give up and assume a life of neverending celibacy ... or more likely, masturbation. Or get yourself thrown in jail and eliminate the other options! That's the situation one writer finds himself in this week, so we suppose there are drawbacks to that plan as well. The prison porn library probably leaves a lot to be desired.

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· Get Naked (timeout.com/newyork)

The brain in this noggin is filled with filth. I'm a porno hound. I'm a slave to porn mags and videos and I'm comfortable putting dating and relationships on hold, in favor of daily wanking. I'm a 50-year-old guy who's been serving time since I was 44 (I get out when I'm 58), and I've been daily wanking since I was 39. I lived in NYC for eight years and once wrote in to an advice columnist. I explained that I was "stuck in a rut," unable to choose between jerking off, pursuing love or pursuing lust with whores in Mexico. She suggested that I try to "reach my full potential," which I assume she meant as a jerk-off. So now, when I finish my time do I: (a) get a life and date women, find a girlfriend/soulmate; (b) buy a ton of porno mags and videos and keep living the jerk-off's life; (c) find a young whore and marry her; or (d) go into porn in my old age and document for the world to see how good I am acting as a filthy, nasty geezer? Thank you for your feedback.

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· Dr. Dick's Sex Advice (drdicksexadvice.com)

My wife is gonna get a gang bang for Valentine's Day. Shes like a total sex freak. I want to get something to bump it up. We tried a blindfold in the past, but it kept slipping down or up when things got heavy. I was thinking about a hood but what kind should I get?

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· Love Bites (eyeweekly.com)

How effective are cock rings at maintaining an erection longer? I have also heard that they can offer a different pleasurable feeling than going au naturel — is this myth or truth?

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· Sex Project Forums (sex-project.com)

So today my GF and I decided to have sex for the first time ... The only problem with this was that my erection was only about half of what it usually is when i masturbate, and though her touching me felt very good i had a hard time maintaining what little of a boner i had. ... I generally dont have a difficult time getting a firm erection when I masturbate, but I read that over masturbating can cause weak erections, which i am probably guilty of since I've been doing it 1-3 times a day lately.
I didn't feel nervous really, just kinda annoyed that my dick wouldnt cooperate when i needed it to work its magic

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· Dear Prudence (slate.com)

My son is in his last year of high school, and he will be 18 soon. I recently discovered that his girlfriend of less than a month has sent him many nude photos of herself. She took the pictures with her cell phone and sent them to his phone. You can see from most of the photos that she took them while standing in front of the mirror. The other photos are close-ups of her parts.

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· Open Up: The Pucker Up Forums (puckerup.com)

However, I have been wondering how many men out there love dropping a load on their womens faces. Also, how many women love getting a load exploaded on their faces. If you enjoy it, why do you, and what was your first time like.

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· In & Out (timeout.com/chicago)

I've never been with a guy who refused sex during my period. I know it's messy and a little inconvenient, but do you have any insight to this aversion?

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· Savage Love (thestranger.com)

My new guy is not happy that I have a collection of toys or that I watch porn, have been to strip clubs, etc. He likes "regular" sex and he refuses to use toys or do anything in the adventurous realm. How do I even talk with him about what I like without scaring him off? I love being tied up and spanked! Plus he has never done oral and doesn't even want to try! HELP!!!

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Previously: Best of Sex Advice Archive